My Parents just Died and My Older Sibling is Itching to Sell House.

[1Bluerose68]

I have barely had some time to mourn death of both parents and now my older bro wants to go and sell the dam house because things aren't going exactly as he wants them to go. He told me he thinks he is always right and I'm wrong and when he wants to sell its up to him.

But we both inherited this lil house on the urban prairie.

I am currently dealing with the Dept of Disability in USA trying to say I owe back pay for overpayment for the last 4 yrs. Why the heck would they wait so darn long to tell me, just to induce a friggin stroke of anxiety.

I'm almost 50 yrs old and barely am back on my 2 feet after my parents both passed away w/in the last 3 yrs ago. I began working p/t while watching my dad. But not FT until he had passed away and I was so anxious that I could NOT stop MYSELF from Working Daily. I used work to help me cope with these losses and just lost track of the Disability. i reported to them monthly exactly what I was earning so I don't see how they could or would wait since 2012 to charge me a penalty of Overpayment(Only NOW in October 2015?????) and Shock me into Going Around half numb these days.

I am just feeling way too overwhelmed and I cant afford to re-pay $26,000 to our Soc Security for something which I feel they should have warned me about way back in 2012. I am NUMBLY PROTESTING. I will probably just go down quietly in history soon and no one will ever see or hear of me again. What else can a poor gal like myself do? I am definitely feeling DEPRESSED too!!

[Anne1221]

We have free legal aid in our state. An attorney can help you! If you can't afford one, see if a disability attorney can assist you, or if you can find some free legal assistance. As far as your brother, there's not a whole lot you can do. If neither of you is going to live in the house, you can either fix it up and rent it, or sell it and divide the proceeds. A shame he's not more supportive though

[1Bluerose68]

well I just dont agree with having to pay back something that should have been stopped 4 years ago if that's what their protocol is, and not let my disability drag on until i had 4 yrs accumulated and then jump on my case. I had only 2 yrs ago gone back to work after last parent died. I was home most the time b4 tha taking care of my elder? I cant afford to re-pay that much money and dont want to because of their inefficiency .

[Anne1221]

I know someone who had something similar to this. He made a deal to pay it back, but a very low amount over a period of time. You were mistreated and done wrong, but it's hard to make them see it that way. They were unfair to my neighbor too, who they said worked too many hours and then made him pay them back. He had to make a deal to pay a small amount over a long period of time.