Ravenholt
10-26-2015, 01:28 PM
Hi folks, first post here.
I'va had SAD for as long as I can remember but I've managed to hold a job. I keep my interactions at a minimum and don't go out much at all. Lately, a familly member revealed that they also have social anxiety (before it was depression, drugs, whatever he would self diagnose with).
Here's the thing. I've always know him as hating work. He lives at home and doesn't pay any bills and just relies on his 62 year old mother to pay everything. He's almost 35. I think what urks me the most is I know how hard it is to get over and I feel like he's just using this for attention and monetary gain. He's trying reall hard to get a pension so he never has to work ever again.
Why do I really think it's all BS? Well... He's incredibly outgoing. He would go to theatres and parties everyday if that was possible. He calls me boring for not going out much. Brags about how good he feels on the pills, brags about how going to the mall while on drugs (not the pill) is super fun. Those are all things that would send me in a panic. He's also never had a single anxiety attack. I think that he's dreading any form or resposibility and will fake it as long as possible. Same thing his father did. He strongly believes people should feel good 100% of the time otherwise you're not normal. He says the pills make all his anxiety go away and feels great. Then why not work and support your familly?
He's incredibly narcissistic. All he talks about is himself and the mondaine crap he does everyday at home. It's always the same stories and it's so boring. He has 0 interest in what's going on with other people's lives. The conversation has to be about him or he zones out with disinterest.
My familly has a history of skytzophrenia and I think that's likely what's going on here.
Sorry people, just needed to vent. It's getting so hard not to call him out on this. I'm not saying he doesn't have mental illness, but I do think he's using this just to get the attention, drugs and money.
Has anyone gone through this? Should I say anyything? I'm at a point where I don't even want to speak with him.
I'va had SAD for as long as I can remember but I've managed to hold a job. I keep my interactions at a minimum and don't go out much at all. Lately, a familly member revealed that they also have social anxiety (before it was depression, drugs, whatever he would self diagnose with).
Here's the thing. I've always know him as hating work. He lives at home and doesn't pay any bills and just relies on his 62 year old mother to pay everything. He's almost 35. I think what urks me the most is I know how hard it is to get over and I feel like he's just using this for attention and monetary gain. He's trying reall hard to get a pension so he never has to work ever again.
Why do I really think it's all BS? Well... He's incredibly outgoing. He would go to theatres and parties everyday if that was possible. He calls me boring for not going out much. Brags about how good he feels on the pills, brags about how going to the mall while on drugs (not the pill) is super fun. Those are all things that would send me in a panic. He's also never had a single anxiety attack. I think that he's dreading any form or resposibility and will fake it as long as possible. Same thing his father did. He strongly believes people should feel good 100% of the time otherwise you're not normal. He says the pills make all his anxiety go away and feels great. Then why not work and support your familly?
He's incredibly narcissistic. All he talks about is himself and the mondaine crap he does everyday at home. It's always the same stories and it's so boring. He has 0 interest in what's going on with other people's lives. The conversation has to be about him or he zones out with disinterest.
My familly has a history of skytzophrenia and I think that's likely what's going on here.
Sorry people, just needed to vent. It's getting so hard not to call him out on this. I'm not saying he doesn't have mental illness, but I do think he's using this just to get the attention, drugs and money.
Has anyone gone through this? Should I say anyything? I'm at a point where I don't even want to speak with him.