gadguy
07-24-2015, 06:42 AM
OK I have jumped back into dating game. I have never dated much. I can probably count the number of women I went out with more than a month on one hand and have fingers left over. When I was in my teens early 20's when guys are learning about dating I was to insecure and thought myself undesirable to women, which led to my anxiety and I will also add to it I looked very young for my age (25 looking 12) so little interest from women.
All that said I am turning over a new leaf, just got a new haircut and I am rocking it..also started dressing a little flashier...I like flashy, but was always afraid of drawing to much attention to myself so I generally tried to blend into background. Since this recent change I am getting a lot of attention from some of the women at work mostly married but the attention is good.
The problem is I missed all those years of trial and error, my 24 year old nephew has more experience at dating and relationships than his 50 year old uncle. I am never sure what to do? or when to take relationships to next level, when I do date and it seems to be working out, I get stuck at level 1 and out of fear of level 2 a more intimate relationship, I sabotage myself because I fear the next level, being that I am this old with very little experience. The last time I had a relationship develop that far was over 14 years ago and it ended shortly after.
I feel a little like a fish out of water, the majority of women in my age dating range are much more experienced than I unless they just left the convent :) . Anybody else dealt with this and how did you overcome it?
All that said I am turning over a new leaf, just got a new haircut and I am rocking it..also started dressing a little flashier...I like flashy, but was always afraid of drawing to much attention to myself so I generally tried to blend into background. Since this recent change I am getting a lot of attention from some of the women at work mostly married but the attention is good.
The problem is I missed all those years of trial and error, my 24 year old nephew has more experience at dating and relationships than his 50 year old uncle. I am never sure what to do? or when to take relationships to next level, when I do date and it seems to be working out, I get stuck at level 1 and out of fear of level 2 a more intimate relationship, I sabotage myself because I fear the next level, being that I am this old with very little experience. The last time I had a relationship develop that far was over 14 years ago and it ended shortly after.
I feel a little like a fish out of water, the majority of women in my age dating range are much more experienced than I unless they just left the convent :) . Anybody else dealt with this and how did you overcome it?