Depressing dreams about my life

[Will80909]

Hello,

I'm a 17 year old guy from Australia and I have been depressed for the last 5 years of my life. I recently removed one of the things that was making me depressed however I still am depressed about two other things I have not resolved yet. I will resolve them but I need time to resolve some of the issues I've been having, okay so my problem I'm having is that I'm dreaming about things that are depressing. It's like I can't even rest whilst I'm sleeping and have those things gone for a moment but it seems like I can't escape them when I'm dreaming about them, I dream about the things I'm depressed about and that's failing high school and having no real friends or social life. A year ago I was tormented by this depression that in the middle of the night or morning when I'd wake up from a sleep immediately I would be stressing and thinking about the things that are making me depressed and I'm not talking 5 minutes after I woke up but I'm talking the moment of my awakening. Is this serious or is it normal for depressed people to be dreaming about the things they're depressed about?

The dreams always seem to get it right. I'm either outside with a group of students I don't know and I'm either social with them or not or I'm in the classroom with them, the problem I have with those dreams is that they ruin my mood immediately and it seems like I can't escape them. It's like a smack in the face all over again

[Im-Suffering]

This is normal. Dreams are meant, as im sure you have heard, to help you resolve problems by working them out through trial and error (in the dream). So look at them in that way, rather than pure fear that they are doing something to you, against your will.

Find the theme of the dreams (which you've already mentioned, failing at 'life') and explore the meaning (what will happen if you fail at life), not on the internet through google search, but how you feel from them. Before bed, decide that when you have a dream like this, you will approach those strangers and try to make friends. Change the course of the dreams, then continue to watch and see, learning from them. You can direct them.

Depression as you rightly concluded is the result of despondency when trying to face these 'unresolvable' problems. To the extent you let them go, is the extent that the depression 'builds'. To the extent you run from and within the dreams, will be the extent they get more severe until you stand your ground with courage and face the ghosts, revealing that it was never as bad as it seemed. Another words, in the dream, make friends, and see yourself passing school.

The dreams are a psychological release. And therapeutic in that you can work on resolutions in them. Approaching strangers and trying to fit in will offer practice for real world attempts, as you get to see how your actions and thoughts effect a situation. (in dreams first). If you wake up nervous, that's ok, keep working on it, they will get 'happier' as you learn from them and adjust your real life behavior.

The same holds true for everyone reading this thread, find the life-theme or problem the dream represents, and what your actions symbolize within them.

[Ponder]

Sounds normal Will - Welcome to the forum. Hope things pick up for you and that you find this forum helpful. Srry I can not elborate. I'm Suffering knows quite a bit about dreaming and has helped me a lot. Just ride with whatever sounds right and no matter what does not sink in. When I was your age I suffered a lot of sleep paralyses, although at that time was told I had demons in me.

You are still early in your journey, however it's often said that in our your our dreams are extremely vivid. At 46 years now, I have to agree ... that dreaming in my younger days was indeed somewhat more vivid. If I could suggest anything, that would be ... don't focus too much on needing to know what they mean, but more focus on learning about Lucid Dreaming ... learn about playing more of a role in your dream and riding with that.

Yep - totally normal man. Ride those dreams as if on a skate board or surf board.

Again - hope things pick up soon for you.

[RoderickLariviere]

In my opinion, dreams are normal to every person. If someone is having stress with them then, that person will have dreams related to his/her issue. It is better that don't take so much stress.