hello, Im in trouble.

[jamon]

I'm just gonna copy what I wrote to a guy in another forum, words, especially smart ones, don't come easy to me these days.

. Since last July, where I had a mental breakdown, my communication skills are off and Im in a state of constant stress, for the most part at least. Ive noticed that trough interaction with others, nice music, good food, psychedelics, I get a feeling that counteracts the stress. But its not a must that this feeling occurs, it only occurs when things feel real. I've had a 2 year period in my life where I kinda had a constant supply of that feeling and felt "normal", I had me a good amount of girls good grades, lots of friends. This lasted until I got sucked back in stress by my own dumbness, had a girlfriend And cheated on her like a lunatic in order to hold on to my good feelings. At some point it just turned worse.
So my problem is Id really like to discuss with folks how I get the fuck of of the downhill ride, but I have trouble getting something really going. I mean, how do you communicate to people you need "realness"..

[Kuma]

Hello and welcome to the forum.

What do you mean by "realness"? Do you mean sincerity and honesty? I have found that these things come from (1) choosing the right people to associate with -- that is, people who value sincerity and honesty, and (2) demonstrating sincerity and honesty yourself.

How to get off a downhill ride? Hard to say, without knowing more. But I like the idea of setting goals and thinking about how you will achieve them. What do you want to be doing, say, a year from now? Doing well in school? Making more money at work? Having closer friendships? Having a girlfriend or a better relationship with your girlfriend? Being a better tennis player? Or musician? Doing more to give back to your community? To stop smoking or drinking? What is it that you want to achieve? Once you set your goals, then you can move on to the "how to I get from here to there" question. But the goals come first. And nobody here can tell you what your goals should be. That is up to you.

[gypsylee]

Hello and welcome :)