Kawaii
03-22-2015, 07:28 PM
Our past shapes who we are, it defines our actions through trial and error and helps us to learn and become better at dealing with issues. Our past experiences provide us with memories, the happiness and simplicity of our youth which can of course often trigger nostalgia. Not all of our past memories are happy however, heart ache, sadness, anger, fear and resentment can be extremely damaging to the fragile human mind.
When a person experiences betrayal they must then learn how best to deal with this and attempt to move on, but that person will then be cautious of further betrayal because that is how we learn. This learning curve is difficult and tedious as it can leave the person overly paranoid, anxious of further wrongdoings as trust is after all a challenging quality to possess. What also tends to happen is the person that has suffered a blow to their trust in another causing them to shut down morally and blindly continue to trust their betrayer. Why people do this is complicated to answer, the person may not be confident and rather insecure so they do not feel brave enough to declare it as wrong and allow it to happen again. However, every person has their limitations when their feelings and trust are tested some people take longer than others to muster the strength to walk away.
The mistake people often make is to enclose their feelings towards bad experiences and fool themselves into thinking that they have moved forward. This can be somewhat detrimental to the wellbeing of said persons mind. Openly discussing bad experiences and the emotions they bring forward helps to create a better perspective on what may have caused them, how better to deal with them if they were to happen again and also how to prevent them from actually happening again.
This is why I am not a fan of positive quotes as I feel they mask rather than aid the repair of past traumas. People often say you should not dwell on your past as it disables you from moving forward, I only partially agree with this as sometimes issues in your present may be the result of issues in your past that have not been analysed and dealt with accordingly. You should only move forward when these issues have been dealt with and even then, never forget as it helped you to learn. Sometimes you have to be cautious and aware otherwise we would all be running around blindly making the same mistakes repeatedly.
When a person experiences betrayal they must then learn how best to deal with this and attempt to move on, but that person will then be cautious of further betrayal because that is how we learn. This learning curve is difficult and tedious as it can leave the person overly paranoid, anxious of further wrongdoings as trust is after all a challenging quality to possess. What also tends to happen is the person that has suffered a blow to their trust in another causing them to shut down morally and blindly continue to trust their betrayer. Why people do this is complicated to answer, the person may not be confident and rather insecure so they do not feel brave enough to declare it as wrong and allow it to happen again. However, every person has their limitations when their feelings and trust are tested some people take longer than others to muster the strength to walk away.
The mistake people often make is to enclose their feelings towards bad experiences and fool themselves into thinking that they have moved forward. This can be somewhat detrimental to the wellbeing of said persons mind. Openly discussing bad experiences and the emotions they bring forward helps to create a better perspective on what may have caused them, how better to deal with them if they were to happen again and also how to prevent them from actually happening again.
This is why I am not a fan of positive quotes as I feel they mask rather than aid the repair of past traumas. People often say you should not dwell on your past as it disables you from moving forward, I only partially agree with this as sometimes issues in your present may be the result of issues in your past that have not been analysed and dealt with accordingly. You should only move forward when these issues have been dealt with and even then, never forget as it helped you to learn. Sometimes you have to be cautious and aware otherwise we would all be running around blindly making the same mistakes repeatedly.