Breakwood
02-26-2015, 05:23 AM
Hi all,
My girlfriend is the one with anxiety and I'm trying to help her through it....
Yesterday was a major setback again! This is getting harder and harder.
We were doing fine since her last blow-up last Thursday. We had a trip planned last weekend that I didn't cancel even though last Thursday had been a nightmare. I figured that we needed a good weekend to build upon.
So with all my might, I invoked the Law Of Attraction to its fullest and forged ahead with our trip while being super-positive, and loving. Guess what? we had an awesome weekend of togetherness and love. I really thought we were making strides. Then on Monday, same thing. Super-Positive, loving, and supportive. Been talking to her a lot about the Law Of Attraction and Positive Thinking. Got her into doing the exercise of listing the things we are thankful for every morning and every night.
She's really getting into it and making an effort. She really wants to turn her life around.
Yesterday morning, she was late. A major source of her anxiety. So I offered to drive her directly into work, even though I was gonna be late myself. She was tense in the car, i put on some of her favorite soft music, I help her hand, told her how much I loved her, talked about our wonderful weekend. Then we hit a traffic jam because of a pile-up on the highway. She began getting upset and really tense. I kept telling her, just phone into work, the whole city is late this morning. Finally we made it in, she was 1/2 hour late.
I went to work. I sent her a little text: Smile! I love you! you're beautiful when you smile!
She thanked me, we went back and forth with some little texts. I thought I was out of the woods.
Around lunch she emails me a little irked that we left in a rush that morning and forgot her lunch. She was short and a little rude with me. I tried to be positive and loving.
Then it slowly began escalating into: you don't seem like you love me as much - you don't care about me - you don't see yourself with me in the future.......
Last night, by the time she got home, it began getting really personal and hurtful and mean. I lost my cool. Got really angry. Basically told her it was over, as I have done many times before...
Why can't we get out of this vicious circle. I've tried so hard. I'm so exasperated and exhausted....
My girlfriend is the one with anxiety and I'm trying to help her through it....
Yesterday was a major setback again! This is getting harder and harder.
We were doing fine since her last blow-up last Thursday. We had a trip planned last weekend that I didn't cancel even though last Thursday had been a nightmare. I figured that we needed a good weekend to build upon.
So with all my might, I invoked the Law Of Attraction to its fullest and forged ahead with our trip while being super-positive, and loving. Guess what? we had an awesome weekend of togetherness and love. I really thought we were making strides. Then on Monday, same thing. Super-Positive, loving, and supportive. Been talking to her a lot about the Law Of Attraction and Positive Thinking. Got her into doing the exercise of listing the things we are thankful for every morning and every night.
She's really getting into it and making an effort. She really wants to turn her life around.
Yesterday morning, she was late. A major source of her anxiety. So I offered to drive her directly into work, even though I was gonna be late myself. She was tense in the car, i put on some of her favorite soft music, I help her hand, told her how much I loved her, talked about our wonderful weekend. Then we hit a traffic jam because of a pile-up on the highway. She began getting upset and really tense. I kept telling her, just phone into work, the whole city is late this morning. Finally we made it in, she was 1/2 hour late.
I went to work. I sent her a little text: Smile! I love you! you're beautiful when you smile!
She thanked me, we went back and forth with some little texts. I thought I was out of the woods.
Around lunch she emails me a little irked that we left in a rush that morning and forgot her lunch. She was short and a little rude with me. I tried to be positive and loving.
Then it slowly began escalating into: you don't seem like you love me as much - you don't care about me - you don't see yourself with me in the future.......
Last night, by the time she got home, it began getting really personal and hurtful and mean. I lost my cool. Got really angry. Basically told her it was over, as I have done many times before...
Why can't we get out of this vicious circle. I've tried so hard. I'm so exasperated and exhausted....