Too Anxious of Getting Pregnant:

[1Bluerose68]

I was very anxious of becoming pregnant so I broke up with my last lover and went on a diet to make my periods stop. Then I began wearing only baggy , loose sweat pants and hoodies on my days off from work. At work I just kind of blend in with the librarian and her books. Is this a normal anxiety for a woman to experience. I just want to lose all my curves and not even look like a sexy woman. I facially am boring already but now I want the rest of my body to be less noticeable and less curvaceous too. My tummy feels so fat already, and I'm having to work out to even lose 2 lbs that seemingly I keep on re-gaining and just cant seem to lose 10 lbs. This is so frustrating. Its like an ALL or Nothing reality for me.....

[Anxiety-Free]

I'm not sure, there are only so many routes you can take here. You can refrain from engaging in spousal type relationships, you can engage in a relationship but be clear you don't want to have sex, or you can be in relationship but use your own form of contraceptive, as well as demanding your partner do the same. In doing that the risk of pregnancy is incredibly low, and if you are open to abortion it is almost a non-issue. You can see that there are only so many choices, you just have to decide which one, and make sure that your reasons make sense.

[Ponder]

If you have to make "demands" in any relationship, you can be sure it won't last long and you'll end up masturbating at any rate. Which I'm assuming might be the best strategy until you can find some other alternative. Perhaps take medication for the anxiety and calmly offer up some alternatives for whomever you "choose" to have sex with - whilst exercising your previous coping strategy to keep cool in the mean time.

I think dressing yourself down does little to help your mind set (but I can understand why you say it) ... It's a simple Yes or No - and it's your responsibility to protect yourself regardless of what triggers another. You'd do better to convey your feeling more with body language as opposed to dressing down. Your right to be worried. It's not the white picket fence and rose garden bringing kids into this world; as it's often painted to be. They should be teaching these facts and negative consequences at school, along side contraception and also much of what Anxiety Free has said there as well...and I mean teaching it right from the beginning to the end of school. It would save a lot of heart ache and be a huge positive step forward for society in general.

Find out what your best option is, but whatever one you pick, just make sure -> To Protect Yourself!