Single and have been for about 7-8 years now

[josh081388]

I am not sure if this goes in the social anxiety forum or depression but here it goes...

Ok, I have been single now for about 7-8 years and it's because of my social anxiety. Back in high school, I dated this girl named Emily who I thought was the one but things didn't work out between us and she was very demanding so we broke up after being together for 8 months. Than I was talking to this other girl her name was Alison but she seemed more of a friend than a girlfriend and I thought things would workout between us but she cheated on me with another guy. Lastly, there was this girl Lauren who one of her friends actually hooked me up with but again she cheated on me with another guy. Now hence these were all high school girls i thought were the one at the time and now that I am a college student, I have been having a hard time trying to meet "The One" who I can be myself around and laugh and smile around. I've heard time and time again from friends and family "Josh it will happen when it's meant to happen there are plenty of fish in the sea". Seems like some good advice,but I just can't make it click in and work. I have also tried online dating as well i.e. plentyoffish,zoosk,meetme and I did meet someone off meetme,but we only hungout once and we stopped talking only for me to find out she fell in love with another guy. I just need some much needed help from someone...anyone on what to do now that I am getting to the point to where I need to find someone quick before I am old and gray and it's too late =/. Thank you

Josh

[drac16]

I would say that you shouldn't necessarily be in a hurry to find someone. You already got burned a few times, right? use that as motivation to look for someone that you know you can trust. I'm not talking about finding any partner at all, but rather, someone you know you can trust. If a girl is seeing another guy behind your back, that breaks your trust-- and rightfully so. You can find all kinds of girls who just want a quick fling, but you seem to not be interested in that (and I commend you for that).

On a practical level, I don't know how to find a trustworthy partner, but what I can say is that your singleness has benefits. There are people, no doubt, who are married/dating who wish they weren't. You have the time, as a single person, to pursue things you otherwise wouldn't have time for. Don't despise that :).