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thronemia

09-22-2014, 04:48 AM

In many people, divorce considerably increases the chance of depression (http://blog.serelax.com/what-is-depression.html). Couples in contradicting relationships ultimately are available to assets with life and separate. In recommendation to Jennifer Baker, Forest Institute of Professional Psychology in Missouri, nearly 50% of very first time marriages result in divorce, 67% of second marriages, and 74% in third marriages. Some of the primary reasons behind divorce consist of young marriage, low levels of education and economic challenges. Rather than the reality that almost 50% divorce cases happen because of issues, lack of commitment by a couple to deal with their variances results in divorce. However couples are stressed with day-today challenges, divorce seems as the best in those relationships.

Im-Suffering

09-22-2014, 11:09 AM

The odds of either of my marriages working were against me obviously..

E-Man :)

I am particularly interested in how you are doing, so forgive me if I sound intrusive sometimes. I've got somewhat of a reading for you, as it comes through:

If one would really see life clearly, and that is one of the main purposes, my spirit guides have told me:

The purpose of life on earth is to see clearly, the inner self does not stand a chance against false programming, conditioning. The ego as the looking glass, able to see in and out is meant to correctly interpret reality and send that information back to "spirit" (in human terms) which can then process how it is doing in this sojourn with its challenges. If the ego feeds false information black to the inner self, the inner self then reacts to a lie. The ego is filtering its observations through its beliefs.

Now with that said:

One that learns from mistakes, carefully examines and recapitulates his life, has the flexibility to change beliefs, and is inching ever closer to clarity, and correct judgements of his reality....this person would read:

Success rate first marriage 50%, success rate second 78%, success rate third 90% or forever.

it would be just as fashionable to say "the odds are certainly in my favor, for if the first marriage dissolves, I will learn of my mistakes and correct them. I will do the work....and in so doing I have a much better chance of success in the future, due in part to the law of attraction. i get what I expect"

The same can be said for building a psychological framework around illness. "I have been ill for so long, and my life so emeshed in medical things, that my basic framework of my existence revolves around and is actually supported by illness. Again I need to do the work, not to accept things as they are, but to deconstruct landscape in my mind. I can picture a hurricane blowing down my houses and bridges and build upon that land constructions of health. My constructions are my mental pictures, for example."

There is always a way out, always a door, friend. You needn't jump through it all at once because that would kill the current ego, you see. The ego that's in charge of the illness constructions. You can't kill that off until you have a suitable replacement. For reasons I will not get into. the new ego, let's say, replacing the previous would always fear for its existence, consciously aware of the formers demise. To have a stable ego then, you must build it up slowly and surely, solidly, like you did since childhood with the current one.

I am trying to help you here, hopefully some of it will click with you. Just a small step in your imagination, playfully, daily, building a new city of health, will erode the old framework to an extent and let the emerging ego take office not by tyranny but voluntary election.