Britanica
07-23-2014, 10:49 PM
Would anxiety cause you to question your relationship?
I been with the same guy for 5 years. He wants to get married, and I did too, over a year ago. Now, the thought of getting married makes me scared. It makes my anxiety worse. I wanted to take a break from the relationship back in February. I told him I didn't know if I wanted it anymore or not. Needless to say, it crushed him. Because I had no where else to stay for our "break", I still stayed with him. So from February till a few days ago, he waited for me to give him an answer, and I couldn't. I am now staying in my parents basement wit one of my cats, the other 4 stayed with him, I miss them dearly. I love him, very much so, but I don't even want to be affectionate with him anymore. I don't like hugging or kissing, any romantic jesters make me cringe, I feel horrible. As of right now, deep down, I don't want to be with him... But the thought of losing him scares me. Has anyone ever gone through something like this? I look at our morals, what we enjoy, what we don't, and so much of who we are as individuals doesn't match up. Like I feel like he is a bad fit for me. I want nothing to do with sex right now, and that is something that is HUGE with him. He can't commit to someone unless he has sex. I can happily live life without it. I also hate drinking and drugs, and he does drink here and there and he smokes pot nearly every day. I am scared to end up like my parents, in an emotionless marriage with next to no common interests, both sucked into our own little bubbles. I don't know what to do. I feel trapped. I feel scared. I have trouble sleeping. I am a mess.
I been with the same guy for 5 years. He wants to get married, and I did too, over a year ago. Now, the thought of getting married makes me scared. It makes my anxiety worse. I wanted to take a break from the relationship back in February. I told him I didn't know if I wanted it anymore or not. Needless to say, it crushed him. Because I had no where else to stay for our "break", I still stayed with him. So from February till a few days ago, he waited for me to give him an answer, and I couldn't. I am now staying in my parents basement wit one of my cats, the other 4 stayed with him, I miss them dearly. I love him, very much so, but I don't even want to be affectionate with him anymore. I don't like hugging or kissing, any romantic jesters make me cringe, I feel horrible. As of right now, deep down, I don't want to be with him... But the thought of losing him scares me. Has anyone ever gone through something like this? I look at our morals, what we enjoy, what we don't, and so much of who we are as individuals doesn't match up. Like I feel like he is a bad fit for me. I want nothing to do with sex right now, and that is something that is HUGE with him. He can't commit to someone unless he has sex. I can happily live life without it. I also hate drinking and drugs, and he does drink here and there and he smokes pot nearly every day. I am scared to end up like my parents, in an emotionless marriage with next to no common interests, both sucked into our own little bubbles. I don't know what to do. I feel trapped. I feel scared. I have trouble sleeping. I am a mess.