trigger warning sex

[pixiebabe]

does anyone else feel extremely anxious about sex? nothing bad sex-related has happened to me, so i'm not sure why this worries me. i've been having a lot of sex since i was 14, and as long as i can remember i've felt inadequate. i excessively ruminate about how i'm making my partner feel, how i look naked, how the sounds im making sound, if any part of my body repulses my partner, if i'm boring, if i'm not making them feel good, if i'm doing something embarrassing, if i say something or do something strange. i have talked to my partner about this many times, and his responses also cause me a great deal of anxiety. he says the sex is "never bad but it really doesnt matter" and "we don't have to." i know he says these things to try and comfort me but they just come off as he's trying not to be insulting and i wish he seemed more enthusiastic about having sex with me. i feel very paranoid and i feel like my anxiety is making the sex even worse for him. opinions?

[Dahila]

I wonder if there is any intimacy in this world. I do not understand how post like that is made. Do you really think your are anonymous on internet? Maybe you think it is ok talking about sex you having with the details. I do respect my relationship too much to ask question like that. Or to give any information to friends.. To talk about it you need the sex therapist not public forum.

[Anne1221]

Everybody worries about this. But, you've got to come clean with him and tell him how inadequate you feel and how you need him to give you some positive feedback.