Need help with emotional attachment

[tray1968]

Hi, my depression has been getting really bad lately. They tell me i'm bi-polar but I don't agree. My main problem right now and forever really is that I very quickly grow very strong emotional bonds to people. Women in particular. I am married but that in and of itself is a long story. Right now i've have formed a extremely strong emotional bond with a woman at work. She is also in a relationship. We just "click" in every way. I have never had a female friend with such strong bonds. Would I like it to be more, yes, to be honest. My problem is that when I form these bonds with people, I seem to take on their pain as will as my own. I've always been a "fixer" and people tell me things they would never tell anyone else, and always have. This particular woman is going on vacation and I actually hurt from missing her. What causes me to form these bonds? I don't know that I want to stop it entirely but I just don't understand it.

[Ankhsious]

There is nothing wrong with forming bonds with people as long as they are not bonds of dependence. There is a natural reason for our 'higher self' to want to help and the damsel in distress makes us feel good. The trick is to know whether the lower self has also wiggled it's way into this agenda and whether you are using it to seek validation, sexual tension, etc.