Indecisiveness, lack of focus, and overwhelming ideas and goals

[libertynow]

I'm suffering with a mild case of depression, although at the beginning of last summer I would say it was starting to be severe. I've come a long way through meditation, mindfulness, and exercise. I've also come to learn quite a bit about myself which is to be expected with this disorder. I guess the only positive side to it I can think of.

I'd like to discuss indecisiveness. I experience these moments where I'm trapped between two or more choices and my mind can't wrap itself around either of them. This causes a very uncomfortable feeling inside that actually feels like despair. I'm realizing now that this is something that has been an issue most of my life just I've dealt with it. I've also come to learn that I've had a hard time focusing on things most of my life. All through my life I've had so many great goals and ideas and often would get started doing them, but always flat line when the the goal and idea looked to overwhelming to me. Instead of seeing it in pieces like most people who succeed have the ability to do, I see my goals and ideas as one big chunk and this usually makes me give up. The excitement about the goal and idea just disappears.

I'm actually starting to wonder if I'm suffering with something I would have never in a million years have suspected. ADD. Everything I'm reading about the disorder and also some online test I've done reveals I have moderate to severe adult ADD. Could this be the reason for my anxiety depression? It might explain why I can't think of things of the past that cause it. I'm quite comfortable with my past and have never really had regrets. As for the future I've been comfortable with it for a long time as well having faith in God that everything will work out for good whether in this life or the next.

Thanks for reading.

Kevin Gagnon

[TB1]

Difficulty with concentration and decision-making are common symptoms of depression/anxiety, and something I'm having issues with as well. That said, I think this is still worth bringing up with your doctor, as they could try putting you on an ADD controller medication. Until then, try taking some multivitamins to help improve your focus.

[libertynow]

Difficulty with concentration and decision-making are common symptoms of depression/anxiety, and something I'm having issues with as well. That said, I think this is still worth bringing up with your doctor, as they could try putting you on an ADD controller medication. Until then, try taking some multivitamins to help improve your focus.

Thanks for your response. The thing with focus issues I think I've had it most of my life. Underachieving in almost everything. I'll have so many great ideas and goals and have all the excitement but it quickly flatlined cause I can't focus long enough on the task than it overwhelms me and I quit. The feelings and excitement gone. The result of this happening my whole life is pretty depressing.

As for the in decisiveness. This is very uncomfortable. It's actually a trigger for a bad day sometimes. The brain can't settle on either decision. It becomes unclear and cloudy. When I try to make a choice the brain goes in overdrive to tell me how it's the wrong decision. Than I'll try the alternative than brain does it again.

Kevin

[needtogetwell]

Hey Kevin,

I understand completely where you are coming from.

I can get excited about an idea then lose interest in it very quickly.

One thing I found that helps me is to write out all the steps to completion, then focus on ONE and only one step at a time. The thing that is accomplished is a success and then you build on each success.

As for decisions, if they aren't life or death, then trying one over the other isn't the end of the world. You can always try the other option if the first one flops!

We learn from making bad decisions, just keep going and learn from each one. Chances are pretty good that you will make better decisions than you give yourself credit for!

Cheers!
Pam

[libertynow]

Hey Kevin,

I understand completely where you are coming from.

I can get excited about an idea then lose interest in it very quickly.

One thing I found that helps me is to write out all the steps to completion, then focus on ONE and only one step at a time. The thing that is accomplished is a success and then you build on each success.

As for decisions, if they aren't life or death, then trying one over the other isn't the end of the world. You can always try the other option if the first one flops!

We learn from making bad decisions, just keep going and learn from each one. Chances are pretty good that you will make better decisions than you give yourself credit for!

Cheers!
Pam

Yes you are probably right. I just don't understand why my brain has to do this. Being caught between two different decisions where your brain can't decide on one or the other is kind of scary and depressing.

Kevin

Kevin

[TB1]

I know how that feels, believe me. Last year, I nearly drove myself crazy flip-flopping between answers to an anxiety-related problem I was having. I didn't know whether to leave the problem alone or seek help for it. I was constantly weighing the possibilities and firing off the same "what if?" questions over and over again. I found that talking to another person about your problems can be a good way to help with the indecisiveness. Even if they can't provide you a solution, it can help you to put your problems in a better perspective.

[Kayleigh Adams]

I understand your frustration, this happens to me as well. Makes you feel like your going crazy, right?!