Sex

[mikecole114]

Hello,
I've been suffering from gad for a whole and at the end of last year got very depressed I'm now feeling a lot better but still anxious. One thing I haven't done since I've been depressed is have sex. The fear of not being able to get an erection on my meds and the fear and low self esteem that I have.
Well I've been speaking to an old friend who is totally game for me and we've been talking about it but I'm now nervous and anxious about having sex again. Any points, tips? I mean like do I tell her before that I'm on these meds or what? What if I'm really bad or something that's my main worry

[NixonRulz]

Hello, I've been suffering from gad for a whole and at the end of last year got very depressed I'm now feeling a lot better but still anxious. One thing I haven't done since I've been depressed is have sex. The fear of not being able to get an erection on my meds and the fear and low self esteem that I have. Well I've been speaking to an old friend who is totally game for me and we've been talking about it but I'm now nervous and anxious about having sex again. Any points, tips? I mean like do I tell her before that I'm on these meds or what? What if I'm really bad or something that's my main worry

So you have a friend that is willing to bang you to see if it will be okay?

Just not sure what you are saying there

[jessed03]

Sup Mike

I think it's a fair worry. Meds can effect your ability to blow, or your ability to even get going. Anxiety affects your confidence and flow.

You're young, so you shouldn't have too big a problem if there is one. May just be a tad rusty.

One of the best ways to gain confidence in something is to do it, and see it work. Makes you far less anxious next time.

No harm in meeting your friend, and trying. To take a lot of the pressure off, pretend you've had a fair few beers. Drink alcohol free though.

That way you can blame anything that comes up, or goes bad, on whiskey dick.

Nobody takes drunken sex seriously.

Then you'll know where you stand, libido wise. If everything goes fine, you'll probably jump straight back in.

[NixonRulz]

Sup Mike I think it's a fair worry. Meds can effect your ability to blow, or your ability to even get going. Anxiety affects your confidence and flow. You're young, so you shouldn't have too big a problem if there is one. May just be a tad rusty. One of the best ways to gain confidence in something is to do it, and see it work. Makes you far less anxious next time. No harm in meeting your friend, and trying. To take a lot of the pressure off, pretend you've had a fair few beers. Drink alcohol free though. That way you can blame anything that comes up, or goes bad, on whiskey dick. Nobody takes drunken sex seriously. Then you'll know where you stand, libido wise. If everything goes fine, you'll probably jump straight back in.

Ok. So it is a friend you can bang

Jesse is right with the above advice

If it does work well, you can probably try everything if you say it makes you feel anxious

You two can just explore cool stuff

It will work just fine

That thing has a mind of its own

[Blessed]

Sex .....what's that :(

[NixonRulz]

Sex .....what's that :(

Yeah but women don't have any pressure

They can just do nothing and pretend they like it and it goes just fine

All my former girlfriends said the same thing

Guys though. Us poor bastards have the weight of the world on our shoulders

Bitches. All of ya.

LOL

[jessed03]

Its that thing you should be doing in bed instead of checking your BP :)

Haha. Brilliant :D

[Dahila]

Its that thing you should be doing in bed instead of checking your BP :)

Forwells you are meanie;)
Sex is the best anxiety killer :)
Why the hell I still have it?

[After5hock]

Yeah but women don't have any pressure

They can just do nothing and pretend they like it and it goes just fine

All my former girlfriends said the same thing

Guys though. Us poor bastards have the weight of the world on our shoulders

Bitches. All of ya.

LOL

I'd like to proudly point out that some (obviously not all) women actually do equal (if not more) amount of work.. You just need to find the ones that are kind, and unselfish!
Although, I do agree. Men do deal with tons of pressure.

[BrookeLynnnn]

I'd like to proudly point out that some (obviously not all) women actually do equal (if not more) amount of work.. You just need to find the ones that are kind, and unselfish! Although, I do agree. Men do deal with tons of pressure.

Agreed!!!!

[Scdg17]

Sex .....what's that :(

If you find out, let me know.
This is officially the longest drought since I lost my virginity. :(

[brittany32888]

Yeah but women don't have any pressure

They can just do nothing and pretend they like it and it goes just fine

All my former girlfriends said the same thing

Guys though. Us poor bastards have the weight of the world on our shoulders

Bitches. All of ya.

LOL

So what about the fact that it takes 1000x more work for a woman to feel a fraction of the pleasure that a man feels. All a man has to do IS get an erection and a hole to put it in then it's a done deal. Waaay more complicated than that for a woman.

[HockeyRules]

So what about the fact that it takes 1000x more work for a woman to feel a fraction of the pleasure that a man feels. All a man has to do IS get an erection and a hole to put it in then it's a done deal. Waaay more complicated than that for a woman.

From a person who was on paroxetine ......the original poster has a fair gripe and fear. Imagine your 26 wedding anniversary.....everything is going smoothly and you just can't get that damn car up up up over the hill. Very frustrating from a verile male pre Paxil. It drove me nuts....either I couldn't finish or couldn't even get the engine started. After I got off Paxil ....it all went back to normal.......just beware.....and prepare yourself just in case...especially if your on a SSRI.

Wishing the best for you ......

[BrookeLynnnn]

From a person who was on paroxetine ......the original poster has a fair gripe and fear. Imagine your 26 wedding anniversary.....everything is going smoothly and you just can't get that damn car up up up over the hill. Very frustrating from a verile male pre Paxil. It drove me nuts....either I couldn't finish or couldn't even get the engine started. After I got off Paxil ....it all went back to normal.......just beware.....and prepare yourself just in case...especially if your on a SSRI. Wishing the best for you ......

I'm on Paxil!! Lol

I know a lot of people say SSRIs make you not even want sex. How long until this happens??

Been on Paxil almost 4 weeks & haven't had any problems yet..... Lol

[HockeyRules]

I'm on Paxil!! Lol I know a lot of people say SSRIs make you not even want sex. How long until this happens?? Been on Paxil almost 4 weeks & haven't had any problems yet..... Lol

What dose ? I went into shutdown mode when at 20 mg. And yes.....I cared about finishing....mentally....physically ....sometimes I could give 2 shits....that wasn't me. Lol.

[BrookeLynnnn]

What dose ? I went into shutdown mode when at 20 mg. And yes.....I cared about finishing....mentally....physically ....sometimes I could give 2 shits....that wasn't me. Lol.

Oh geeeez!!

I'm on 20mg.

[Niicole Lynne]

I'm sorry and not to offend but this thread made me giggle a little bit lol

[BrookeLynnnn]

I'm sorry and not to offend but this thread made me giggle a little bit lol

Hi friend! I haven't seen you on lately!! Must mean you're doing well? :)

[Niicole Lynne]

Hi friend! I haven't seen you on lately!! Must mean you're doing well? :)

Hey Brooke! Things have been really good lately.
It's kinda strange. Lol whether it's the medicine or a mixture of meds, therapy, and distraction techniques I've been feeling almost normal. Keeping busy with family and friends and work has helped too.

Unfortunately jay (bf) has been working nights and I know its still a trigger for me because I find myself becoming slightly anxious at night.
Other than that and a few intrusive thoughts things have been good.

How are you girl?

[BrookeLynnnn]

Hey Brooke! Things have been really good lately. It's kinda strange. Lol whether it's the medicine or a mixture of meds, therapy, and distraction techniques I've been feeling almost normal. Keeping busy with family and friends and work has helped too. Unfortunately jay (bf) has been working nights and I know its still a trigger for me because I find myself becoming slightly anxious at night. Other than that and a few intrusive thoughts things have been good. How are you girl?

Aw that's great!! So happy for you :)
You don't panic at night though? That's good!

& I've actually been good also! Yay :) I'm not back at work yet but I'm hoping to be soon!!

I'm out doing things & started seeing a counselor Friday! Everything's goooood :)

[Niicole Lynne]

Aw that's great!! So happy for you :) You don't panic at night though? That's good! & I've actually been good also! Yay :) I'm not back at work yet but I'm hoping to be soon!! I'm out doing things & started seeing a counselor Friday! Everything's goooood :)

I posted that in two threads for some reason haha
I don't panic much at night anymore no
I just try going to sleep and listening to the sound of rain
It's very calming for me
And I'm happy for you too!!
I'm sure you'll be back in no time!
I like hearing good stuff :)

[BrookeLynnnn]

I posted that in two threads for some reason haha I don't panic much at night anymore no I just try going to sleep and listening to the sound of rain It's very calming for me And I'm happy for you too!! I'm sure you'll be back in no time! I like hearing good stuff :)

Lol!!

& that's good!! Once I go home, I'll be in the same boat. Boyfriend got a new job while I've been at my moms & it's graveyard :( his mom will be home with me but still..

& thank you!! :)

Glad you found me on FB! :)

[mikecole114]

Thankyou for all your replies . Yeah it's a friend who just broke up with her boyfriend we are both in town and she wants the d! Ahahahahahahah but yeah it is such a nervous thing and I don't know why. I'm more scared of her then telling people that I'm like that but I know she wouldn't do that but I'm still full of fear.


Another issue I wanna see if anyone eles has is on ssris they sweat more? Especially when sleeping? Another reason I'm scared to sleep with her because what if I get really really sweaty it will be grim for her!!!? Any tips I'm detirmined to end my drought

[NixonRulz]

So what about the fact that it takes 1000x more work for a woman to feel a fraction of the pleasure that a man feels. All a man has to do IS get an erection and a hole to put it in then it's a done deal. Waaay more complicated than that for a woman.

Dang. Your men have been lame

See, that's where SSRI's work for you, Mike

When I was dating my wife , she thought I was a stud because I could go to when I wanted to being on the SSRI.

I learned to have great control of it and could go for 2 minutes or 2 hours, depending on her mood

She said " I do", I eventually came off the SSRI, we had kids, I got lame in the sack and she decided it was cheaper to stay together than divorce

A fairy tale, I tell ya

[NixonRulz]

Thankyou for all your replies . Yeah it's a friend who just broke up with her boyfriend we are both in town and she wants the d! Ahahahahahahah but yeah it is such a nervous thing and I don't know why. I'm more scared of her then telling people that I'm like that but I know she wouldn't do that but I'm still full of fear. Another issue I wanna see if anyone eles has is on ssris they sweat more? Especially when sleeping? Another reason I'm scared to sleep with her because what if I get really really sweaty it will be grim for her!!!? Any tips I'm detirmined to end my drought

I did a bit of sweating for a week or two one I started the Effexor

Nothing major and it went away

You know you are so focused on this right now, there is the possibility that you will self talk the wood to becoming a wet noodle

And it won't be because of the SSRI, it will be the anxiety of having to get a boner on command in your mind

So much pressure and that thing will stare at your feet

That was much worse for me than the effects of the SSRI . I was afraid I wouldn't be able, so I wasn't able to. And that sucked

If that does in fact happen, give it some time before you bail on the AD. Good chance it isn't the pill screwing you over

Let the SSRI work long enough to remove the anxiety, then decide if it is having side effects on you

You have a real good sport in gnat girl who will let you bang her for a bit to try things out

Hopefully she will be willing to give you a go in 8 weeks or so after you start

The anxiety issues should be gone or lessened so you can see how you make out

Good luck with this

It's a horrible thing to have to go through and potentially embarrassing

This is the one issue that all guys can relate to

[Blessed]

Its that thing you should be doing in bed instead of checking your BP :) ha ha ha !!! Yes :( But these lovely meds take the want too right out of ya

[amers85]

My meds effected me in the beginning, I was never in the mood. I don't know if it were the meds, or just me always thinking about when my next panic attack was to happen. Now if I could have it all the time I wouldn't complain lol, just gotta get my fiancé on that!

[anxietycat]

This thread was just what I needed to see today ... Lol!!!!!

[jessed03]

If you're worried about sweating, talcum powder up.

It works for Olympic weightlifters.

You may smell a little bit of baby, that's the down side.

[After5hock]

If you're worried about sweating, talcum powder up.

It works for Olympic weightlifters.

You may smell a little bit of baby, that's the down side.

The smell of baby products (powder, lotion, etc) actually tend to arouse women.

[NixonRulz]

The smell of baby products (powder, lotion, etc) actually tend to arouse women.

I got excited when I read this

I threw baby powder at three girls here in the office and all they got was mad

I think I actually blinded one of them

Please don't post unproven facts

My career depends on it

[brittany32888]

Dang. Your men have been lame See, that's where SSRI's work for you, Mike When I was dating my wife , she thought I was a stud because I could go to when I wanted to being on the SSRI. I learned to have great control of it and could go for 2 minutes or 2 hours, depending on her mood She said " I do", I eventually came off the SSRI, we had kids, I got lame in the sack and she decided it was cheaper to stay together than divorce A fairy tale, I tell ya

Lmao... I have no words...

[After5hock]

I got excited when I read this

I threw baby powder at three girls here in the office and all they got was mad

I think I actually blinded one of them

Please don't post unproven facts

My career depends on it

Lmfao.
http://health.howstuffworks.com/wellness/men/sweating-odor/attractive-man-smell.htm

[brittany32888]

The smell of baby products (powder, lotion, etc) actually tend to arouse women.

It's actually the opposite for me, probably for other reasons. Now after having a child, if/when I do smell something babyish while, well...ya know doing it(lol) it turns me off. I think, oh yeah, I have a kid in the next room that could potentially wake up, walk in here right before something could be happening and ruin it. F#@&!!


That could just be me though...

[After5hock]

It's actually the opposite for me, probably for other reasons. Now after having a child, if/when I do smell something babyish while, well...ya know doing it(lol) it turns me off. I think, oh yeah, I have a kid in the next room that could potentially wake up, walk in here right before something could be happening and ruin it. F#@&!!

That could just be me though...

Lol. I'm sure that it doesn't work for all women, but when my man puts on some baby lotion.. mm. >.<

[brittany32888]

Lol. I'm sure that it doesn't work for all women, but when my man puts on some baby lotion.. mm. >.<

Lmao... more power to you, for sure ;)

[Blessed]

Y'all are cracking me up !

[Blessed]

Lol. I'm sure that it doesn't work for all women, but when my man puts on some baby lotion.. mm. >.< wow... Ok ....lol, does he put it on himself??

[NixonRulz]

Lol. I'm sure that it doesn't work for all women, but when my man puts on some baby lotion.. mm. >.<

He puts baby lotion on? A guy does?

You either have nagged the testosterone right outta him or you are like an Olympic gymnast in the sack when he wears it

There is no other logical reason

None

[brittany32888]

He puts baby lotion on? A guy does?

You either have nagged the testosterone right outta him or you are like an Olympic gymnast in the sack when he wears it

There is no other logical reason

None

Have you ever had sex with a woman that had elephant skin? There is nothing wrong with a man feeling baby soft for his woman..

[brittany32888]

And on a second note, if you knew that your woman would put out every time she smelled that baby scent, wouldn't you rub it all over your body every chance you got?

[NixonRulz]

Have you ever had sex with a woman that had elephant skin? There is nothing wrong with a man feeling baby soft for his woman..

If I ever had the displeasure of being with a woman with elephant skin, I would shoot her and mount her on the wall with the deer heads. LOL

[amers85]

This is getting very comical lol

[brittany32888]

If I ever had the displeasure of being with a woman with elephant skin, I would shoot her and mount her on the wall with the deer heads. LOL

Exactly.

Use the lotion.

[After5hock]

He puts baby lotion on? A guy does?

You either have nagged the testosterone right outta him or you are like an Olympic gymnast in the sack when he wears it

There is no other logical reason

None

My fault. It's the only lotion that I buy. Bahahaha! We're both too cheap to buy two kinds.

[After5hock]

wow... Ok ....lol, does he put it on himself??

Not every time. Lol.

[After5hock]

And on a second note, if you knew that your woman would put out every time she smelled that baby scent, wouldn't you rub it all over your body every chance you got?

Bahaha. Right! Most men probably wouldn't give a.....

[jessed03]

I use baby lotion. I'm not ashamed of that.... anymore.

The Johnson and Johnson one. Most expensive lotions are pretty much just baby oil with perfumes in anyway.

It costs about £2 and makes my skin so soft. Every girl that touches it comments.

Which I don't mind, as long as they don't touch my rattle.

[After5hock]

I use baby lotion. I'm not ashamed of that.... anymore.

The Johnson and Johnson one. Most expensive lotions are pretty much just baby oil with perfumes in anyway.

It costs about £2 and makes my skin so soft. Every girl that touches it comments.

Which I don't mind, as long as they don't touch my rattle.

See! Sh*t's amazing! Lol. Never be ashamed. :)

[brittany32888]

I use baby lotion. I'm not ashamed of that.... anymore.

The Johnson and Johnson one. Most expensive lotions are pretty much just baby oil with perfumes in anyway.

It costs about £2 and makes my skin so soft. Every girl that touches it comments.

Which I don't mind, as long as they don't touch my rattle.

See at least you care about having soft skin....
But FYI... Johnson & Johnson puts formaldehyde in all of their baby products.


http://ideas.time.com/2012/08/22/the-real-lesson-of-formaldehyde-in-baby-shampoo/

[amers85]

See at least you care about having soft skin....
But FYI... Johnson & Johnson puts formaldehyde in all of their baby products.


http://ideas.time.com/2012/08/22/the-real-lesson-of-formaldehyde-in-baby-shampoo/


YES!! It does, I was told about this when my son was younger, and I quit using it!!

[amers85]

I use baby lotion. I'm not ashamed of that.... anymore.

The Johnson and Johnson one. Most expensive lotions are pretty much just baby oil with perfumes in anyway.

It costs about £2 and makes my skin so soft. Every girl that touches it comments.

Which I don't mind, as long as they don't touch my rattle.

Soft skin is a plus. How many girls come up and just touch you? lol

[brittany32888]

YES!! It does, I was told about this when my son was younger, and I quit using it!!

Apparently they are working to get rid of it.. but after all this time not giving a shit.. it's a little too late I'd say...

[jessed03]

See at least you care about having soft skin....
But FYI... Johnson & Johnson puts formaldehyde in all of their baby products.


http://ideas.time.com/2012/08/22/the-real-lesson-of-formaldehyde-in-baby-shampoo/

They got rid of that a while ago in the UK product :) but thanks for the FYI britt

I already cut out the SLS garbage in my shampoos, and my hairs way nicer for doing that!

[brittany32888]

They got rid of that a while ago in the UK product :) but thanks for the FYI britt

I already cut out the SLS garbage in my shampoos, and my hairs way nicer for doing that!

Us Americans are always the last to make changes. :/

Maybe you should start a thread:
Male Grooming 101
You could teach these guys a thing or two

[NixonRulz]

They got rid of that a while ago in the UK product :) but thanks for the FYI britt I already cut out the SLS garbage in my shampoos, and my hairs way nicer for doing that!

What is SLS?

[brittany32888]

What is SLS?

Sulfates.... right?

[jessed03]

Yeah sodium lauryl sulfate.

Some say there's a cancer risk using it, but I just think cutting it out made my hair much healthier. My hairs really thin and wavy, things like this matter to me.

And others notice it too. One girl said to me I had the softest hair she'd ever seen, and wondered if I'd go out on a date with her friend. I said sure.

We never met again after that one date though. Sometimes you meet somebody and know they just aren't your type.

I do hope Marcus found somebody.

[mikecole114]

So tonight's the night I meet this girl every body wish me luck ahahah thanks everyone for the replies

[NixonRulz]

So tonight's the night I meet this girl every body wish me luck ahahah thanks everyone for the replies

Have fun!!!!!