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[scared748]

I just recently stumbled across this website and its so good to know that I am not alone...I have had anxiety for many years now...it got really bad when my parents got divorced when I was 12. I would get myself so worked up I would think i was dying bc i felt like I couldnt breathe and always felt like there was a lump in my throat so I would be afraid to fall asleep at night fearing I wouldnt wake up my mind would race constantly and I could never relax...that lasted about a year and a half until I could finally settle myself down a little...The anxiety is always there but certain stresses/situations in my life cause it to get worse...Ive gone to a therapist and tried a few different medications but neither really seemed to help much...especially the medication it just made me tired and made me feel the my mind was even more fizated on the worriesRight now it has gotten worse because my boyfriends ex is calling and trying to get back with him and even though he has never given me a reason to worry I do ALL the time...my mind is constantly racing(not just about that but alot of other things too) hearts racing sweating frequents trips to the bathroom dizziness and worst of all is my mind seems to focus on the worries so much that I cant control it...i also find it hard to talk to people who dont know what I'm going through because there reactions are all the same..."snap out of it" or just stop thinking too much into things...i wish it could be that easy! I could use some advice from anyone who knows what I am going through.

[Robbed]

..."snap out of it" or just stop thinking too much into things...i wish it could be that easy!

You may not be able to just 'snap out of it' or stop 'thinking too much' on a dime. BUT, you can certainly try thinking a little less about worrysome things. That's the way you deal with anxiety. You try to let it bother you less and less until it becomes a non-issue. As much as you probably want it to all go away now, that is unfortunately not the way it works.

It sounds to me like you had a rather traumatic childhood. Not only did you probably have to deal with a divorce. But I am sure you probably had to deal with quite a few years of a rocky relationship between your parents that ultimately led to the divorce. This sort of thing causes MUCH stress and, consequtently, anxiety (and possibly other stuff that goes along with anxiety like depression, obsessive thoughts, etc). And once established, it is quite easy for anxiety to become entrenched, habituated, and reinforced through unpleasant anxiety symptoms. So now is the time to break that habit. Just remember to be patient.