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ThousandMiles
02-21-2014, 05:32 PM
Hey :D

I know this is probably a typical teenage problem or whatever, but I'm not feeling comfortable in my group of friends right now. I feel like I can't connect to any of them, not really anyway, and that none of them understand what I'm going through. I feel like some people are *interested* in my problems, but don't care. I've always been too trusting, so I found this out the hard way, and now I find it harder to open up.

Also, pretty much everyone in this group is quite religious (Christian), which I have no problem with at all, except that they bond over it a lot, talk about it heaps, and have quite strong values that I disagree with. I respect all those things, but it makes me feel very excluded. Especially when they talk about things like sex before marriage, drinking, and uh.. other things. It makes me feel like a bad person :c
AND, they're all quite pretty. It's not a popular group or anything, but I'm not very attractive, and I have a mild case of BDD as well which doesn't help. I can't stand being the ugly, fat friend. They've never called me that and tell me I'm not, but they do fat-shame at times, and judge what people are wearing. Of course everyone does that sometimes, but it makes me feel uncomfortable when they do it.

They've also known each other since year 7. Or most of them anyway. I joined 2 years ago, from the UK (I live in Australia now)... I'd say that's why I don't fit in, BUT 2 other girls joined the same time as me and they fit in so well.

I only have 3 people who I trust with everything, but I suck at talking to 1 of them, the other 1 is always hanging out with these people I used to be closer to but now exclude me, and the other one seems to find me annoying and only talks to me when she needs something >_<

Sorry for the long rant, I'm just feeling really lonely in spite of being in a big group of "friends". I can't wait to leave school this year and make new friends, but I'm shy and I am scared this won't happen. This is making me so depressed and lonely, I hate feeling like this :(

Any ideas?

Scdg17
02-22-2014, 12:35 PM
I know how you feel. It's not just a typical teenage problem. I'm 25 and reevaluating my groups of friends. I went from having hundred of awesome friends until my life fell apart and no one could understand me or wanted to help.
Now I'm down to 6 close friends that I talk to over the phone frequently.
But my new motto is I'd rather have no friends than mediocre ones.
When the chips are down you really see clearly who is there for you and who is replaceable.
My advice to you is to try to open up completely to maybe one or two friends that you think are emotionally strong enough to be there for you. And also, a phrase I learned in therapy, I tell my friends "Don't try to understand what in going thru. You won't fully get it. But just I just need you to be supportive of me."

ThousandMiles
02-26-2014, 01:58 AM
Thanks for the replies, guys. I'll try and put your advice into action and remember your words ^_^
Hope you guys are going okay. Stay strong x