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Dance Hard Disco
01-23-2014, 06:07 PM
Hi everyone.

I am a 22 year old male who has had anxiety for a large chunk of life. Only in the past year or two has it been bad. My anxiety is generalized, usually focusing on things I cannot control and has recently switched over to health anxiety. You know, the usual, "My chest hurts, must be my heart failing." Recently, I had surgery to get two cysts removed and through that and the percocet I took, I have had stomach issues. Of course my anxiety got a hold of that and even a week and a half after getting off the medicine, I still have some stomach issues. Naturally, I have diagnosed myself with a variety of problems ranging from parasites to colon cancer.

I guess what motivated me to seek out this website is that I have been really struggling lately. I've seen multiple doctors concerning my health and eventually decided through their help that a new approach is needed. Everyone is encouraging psychological treatment, and I completely agree. It is great, my school actually provides FREE psychological treatment to students, so I was very excited to start that. However, it was right before Christmas break when I jumped on board and all they pretty much told me is they can't do much until after Christmas break. When I got back from my month long break, I was looking forward to starting the treatment; however, for the past two weeks I have been rescheduled and unable to meet with anyone and I fear that it will happen again next week. I sometimes experience depression with my anxiety, because who wants to spend their entire lives living in fear? When I get told I can't meet someone to get help, it usually makes me pretty depressed.

I feel as though no one understands me. My family just tells me to "stop worrying" and I wish it was that easy. My friends know me for my sense of humor, so if I bring it up around them, they take it as a joke and laugh. I laugh along with them, but there is always that feeling of regret that I even mentioned it. Most of my life, I have tried many things and never really succeeded. The only thing I am remotely good at is being humorous, but not only has my humor forced me to look at a lot of negative aspects about life, I eventually came to the realization that I am not funny enough to be considered "good". I feel like most of my life has been a disappointment. I feel as though I should have done something better by now, but have failed at all my attempts. I am in college and spent the first 2 years thinking I was just wasting my time, because I don't want a job in Public Relations and jobs in Philosophy are basically non-existent. Those are my majors, by the way. However, the last 2 years have been filled with motivation. I want to go to Law School. I really do. I know times are tough for attorneys, but I am willing to work as hard as needed to succeed. I want to move out of my state and become an attorney and actually do some great work. My parents are both great people, and we never had a lot of money. With my dad having to switch jobs constantly, we barely made it by at times. I want to make enough money one day that I can do something great for them. I want to buy my dad his dream motorcycle and take my mom to Ireland. Those are two things they could never afford while raising two kids, and I want to make that possible for them. However, with my health anxiety, I fear that if I die within the next few years, none of the goals I have formed will be achieved and my entire life will be a disappointment.

I am very sorry for the long post. I have a hard time expressing myself in a short amount of words. I understand if no one takes the time to read this, but with the difficulty I have had at meeting with a counselor and the fact that a lot of my peers don't understand, I guess I am desperate to be heard. I don't have a lot of answers at the moment, and I hope one day I can really help someone who is going through what I currently am. But for now, I just need to take things one step at a time. Thank-you and I look forward to communicating with you all on this website.

hippysilverware
01-23-2014, 07:53 PM
Welcome! I just joined myself a little while ago, everyone here seems nice and very willing to listen. I'm sorry you haven't been able to meet with your psychologists yet.

I like your motivation though! It's good to have a dream to help you push yourself; and you should be proud of the rest of it too. The fact that you're continuing school despite the anxiety of your health, and coming here to look for understanding when you couldn't find it at home; you don't give up easy.

I've noticed there are a lot of people here who have really good tips for dealing with the troubles. Hopefully it won't take you too long to be seen, but if it does I'm sure you'll find some help and understanding here too.

NeverToo...Fear
01-23-2014, 09:21 PM
Hello Dance Hard Disco.. nice to meet you and welcome to the forums :)

Awesome of you to share your story with us. I admire your motivation; to go to Law School and do what you want, to give those things to your parents. That's amazing ! And hopefully you'll get that physiological treatment and it will help you. Not too bad being free.. except for the fact it's hard to get an appointment! But you'll get there.

You'll get through this bout of health anxiety. Especially now since you've found your way here. There's lot's of understanding and support here.

Dance Hard Disco
01-23-2014, 09:47 PM
Welcome! I just joined myself a little while ago, everyone here seems nice and very willing to listen. I'm sorry you haven't been able to meet with your psychologists yet.

I like your motivation though! It's good to have a dream to help you push yourself; and you should be proud of the rest of it too. The fact that you're continuing school despite the anxiety of your health, and coming here to look for understanding when you couldn't find it at home; you don't give up easy.

I've noticed there are a lot of people here who have really good tips for dealing with the troubles. Hopefully it won't take you too long to be seen, but if it does I'm sure you'll find some help and understanding here too.

Thank-you. It felt nice just getting it off my chest. I must admit, it is tough to concentrate at school, but I've come too far to stop now. I've read over some of the conversations on here and after reading your post, I am convinced this place is full of understanding people. I look forward to conversing with more. Thank-you for the reply.


Hello Dance Hard Disco.. nice to meet you and welcome to the forums :)

Awesome of you to share your story with us. I admire your motivation; to go to Law School and do what you want, to give those things to your parents. That's amazing ! And hopefully you'll get that physiological treatment and it will help you. Not too bad being free.. except for the fact it's hard to get an appointment! But you'll get there.

You'll get through this bout of health anxiety. Especially now since you've found your way here. There's lot's of understanding and support here.

Haha, I agree. I guess I get what I pay for, right? However, I college itself isn't exactly cheap, lol. I feel a little better all ready, honestly. Like I said, I've had it for a while, but with the past couple of years it's been slowly getting worse and for the past few months it has just been out of control. Sometimes I feel so alone, cooped up in my room, and guilty because I think of all the people who face their goals and just shut up and get the job done and here I am worrying about dying when 8 hours ago a doctor told me I am A-Ok. However, knowing that I can talk to people who will hear my story and go, "Yeah sounds about right!" is very nice. It is reassuring to know that people can relate. Thank-you!

Dahila
01-23-2014, 09:53 PM
Hi and welcome to forum.
what I hate most, when people tell me not to worry:))

Dance Hard Disco
01-23-2014, 10:02 PM
Hi and welcome to forum.
what I hate most, when people tell me not to worry:))


Gahhhh! I totally agree. I love my mom to death and would take a bullet for her, but often times she tells me, "Just stop worrying, you are fine." I won't get mad at her for it, but man, it just isn't that easy. However, on a more positive note, I am happy to be here, thank-you.