Nervous about posting...But joined for answers!! And help??

[Dorrie23]

Ok, I've wanted to post something, and haven't. One of my very first post's was going to the dr. and I thought I needed to change medications, and what did people think about the medicines. Then I added, that I thought one of the reason's was because it was right before the Holidays and my son was in jail for severe depression, got drunk, stole a car, and tried to commit suicide. I made a comment something like I know he needs to be there. I was extremely nervous, my depression was, and still is off the charts, and I didn't elaborate on why I made that comment. First response, was a very hateful, negative, how dare you say you know he needs t be in there, what jail was really like... unless he was in a sissy one...bla bla bla!!!!! I quit the site! Then rejoined because I literally know no one where we moved, and needed this site. I didn't mention that he was in one of the worse jails in the country. That he had a rod from his hip to knee with five screws, to hold them together, due to a wreck that landed the car on his right leg, and they almost amputated it, and Thank God was able to save it. And he was in there, called saying he had had his third fight already, and had to beat the crap out of them to gain respect in there. He isn't a fighter, but can handle his own if pushed. He found out after the wreck, he made special forces, a dream since he was 12. Yeah, severe depression. When he was 10, he was put in a mental hospital after my ex-husband pretty much beat him up. When I went to see him, from being there, he just stared. Wouldn't talk. Took forever to get him over that one. I'm just telling it as it is. So, after almost completing suicide, meaning not on this earth anymore by the way, and driving around drunk for a year, which could kill someone, and steeling a couple, not one car trying to get to us, in a black out, I thought jail would be better than killing someone drunk, killing himself, and at least would live... hopefully. One things for sure, he sounds like a different person. Back to the person millions of his family and friends know him as. An incredible human being. He got beaten in there too. He just won the fights. I missed Christmas, Thanksgiving, his birthday, and New Years Eve for the first time. And no matter why I made the comment in the wrong way, I'm extremely depressed it was the first year without him. Some may think I'm crazy, but in his very early 20's, he will always be my first born baby, and yes, I am depressed. Was suppose to go to the Dr. today, and they closed school, and the Dr.s due to it being 5 degrees outside. My original question was about Abilify and Cymbalta. Had anyone had any good results from it. Kind answers please. lol. Dorrie

[Bourdain1]

Dorrie23
sorry to hear about your sons misfortunes & how it's affecting you ultimately.
But you're a MOM; and your response in the beginning about choosing to let him stay in there for the better was a wise choice as a mother who cares & knows what's best for the safety and integrity of her child. Disregard others negative remarks because it's no ones place at the end of the day to make you feel less than. Frankly, I know I what've done the same, as would my headstrong Mexican mother would too if it were me under those circumstances. It's true about what they say, you've got to hit rock bottom before you can ever realize there's no getting better unless you choose to do so yourself. Feel better sweetie. Things will get better I promise.:)

[Dorrie23]

Thanks sooo much Bourdain1. I fought and battled with drugs really bad before I had kids. Starting at 14. I know what it's like to hit rock bottom. It felt like I did it many times. You do have live and learn. It's just hard watching one of your own. But that really was a heartfelt response. He did his time at the really bad jail, and while in there actually got Trustee, which helped him some. Now he has been sent to the second jail, to do his time for the second car, and he wasn't in long at all, and is Trustee there. He works in the kitchen from early morning to evening, so his time is occupied, and each day is counted as three. He's coming here when he get's out and wants to go to college doing something in the Auto Mechanic Field. He actually has a defined plan of what he wants. Thanks again, hon for your response. Take care, D.

[Dahila]

Dorrie I answered the other posts in the most caring mannier, I know , I do not , I imagine I know what you feel. My imagination is pretty good. Cymbalta my hubby was on it, it helps with depression and is good expensive med, and also with the nerve pain. It would be a good option for you.
Eman sings beautiful songs about Abilify he is on it, it helps him, he would be the best source of info. His family members are on Cymbalta so he knows it too. I would think Cymbalta works on the pains and the depression... I got to get ready for work, Nice to see you my friend:))) take care

[Enduronman]

Yes Dorrie those are great medications!! I LOVE the Abilify....(I sound like an Abilify pusher but this stuff has made all the difference in my life, in a good way)....:)

PS: You WILL make it through the hard times with the Son,..we always do and we always will..

Anxious people, are strong people...we just have to search a little harder to find it and then when we do,...WATCH OUT WORLD!!!

E-Man...

[Dorrie23]

You sweat thing, my friend, Dee Dee!! Maybe I can afford a ticket in 20 yr. and come hang with you in Canada one day. lol. Dorrie

[Dorrie23]

E-Man, thanks bro. I am getting a bit stronger. Used to be very strong, and believe I'm going to get back on that road again. Right now, I'm stuck in the song from "Tom Petty", "If I was a King". Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong. I can take it today. lol. later D.

[Dahila]

You sweat thing, my friend, Dee Dee!! Maybe I can afford a ticket in 20 yr. and come hang with you in Canada one day. lol. Dorrie
hey I have a passport and the car :))))) will do one day
Got to get up and get ready for work, keep it warm and nice people ;)))