SET a GOAL in HERE

[Ponder]

I'm not big on goal setting, because there just seems so much BS around the topic, and lets face it - some of us Long Term Sufferers can be a real pain in the ass when thinking on such things. I am very pessimistic and tired with the way things are and I know being like this is not a good thing. So for all the negative banter I go on with, this is a little compromise I must take in order to get positive things done. I know there is that list of a positive for the day elsewhere in this sub section, however I need a place to come and list a REALISTIC GOAL that I know will help get my Positive neurons firing and maybe even start building bridges - a bit of that neuroplasticity.

So I'm going to try and get some good chemicals happening by setting a small goal every now and then. Some may be short and some may be further down the track. The shorts ones should reap little rewards that might make me feel good for accomplishing and the long terms ones give a little more buzz, but the positive is the building process that happens along the way. I need to get motivated whilst still seeing what is, and letting go of what I can not change.

I hope some of you can join in with me. Just keep the goals doable is all I ask - not for my sake, but just for your own.
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[Ponder]

SELL MY GAMING COMPUTER and use the money to by a budget medium Sized Laptop. I aim to do this after I move to the new Town.

My massive overpowered gaming computer takes up a very large space. The tower itself is almost as big as a small fridge which requires a 6 foot table for me to spread out. I use two screens which I really don't need. I play World Of Tanks which can run on a laptop so have no real need for such a high speed graphics machine. I do some editing with photo's, but know I can still do this on a laptop with a little more patients. My current setup takes up a whole room, which in many rental houses will have me ending up without much light and also away from my wife. That is a big downer and I don't like being a prisoner in a room!

I can't wait till I get back to a simple laptop, doing my stuff in a will lit room where I can see my wife and also mix in much better in general. It's amazing what the environment of a room can do. I am done with computer rooms!
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[AmberGbenga]

Awesome! Goal setting is important!! I have a few big goals then a huge goal.. All life changing.. Ahh! Scary!

[Enduronman]

Goal setting: Excellent idea!

1. Goal #1: Waiting for brain to catch up with fingers.

Yes...(must sell gaming computer). Especially considering it takes up 600 sq ft of your dwelling. I do however suspect, it's a real party, up in there.

*Abit of background* (fire for effect) or shits and giggles....
I am an addict. To WHAT EVER it is that I do or enjoy doing. I would become addicted to it, regardless of what it was.
1. Scholastics/education: Addict. Until I threw my books into the creek. 9th grade.
2. Sports: Addict. Baseball, basketball, football, track. Until I quit, 9th grade.
3. Girls: Addict. I won't get into that..
4. Crime: Addict. Adrenaline junky. Until I quit. Age 18. (dozens of arrests, thrilling)
5. Drugs: Addict. Until I quit (the illegal ones). Age 18.
6. Games: Addict. Until my 2nd wife said, "Me or those f**kin games"..uhhh,,...I quit, age 22. (Oddly enough, a tank warfare gaming system. True)
7. Work: Addict. Pockets full of money. No time for family. I never found that balance until my joints dissolved. Hard to work with no legs, arms, neck..
8. Cars/trucks: Addict. I had 4 cars, 2 trucks, 2 licensed drivers. (still workin on this one, had 3 cars, 2 trucks until a month ago. I sold 1 car)....
9. Weightlifting: Addict. Until my physical body "Threw in the Towel" as my Doc put it.
10. Hobbys: Addict. I wanted to be a professional fisherman on tour, with a Ranger bass boat and a 200HP Johnson outboard that went 75 mph.
11. Intense focus to make any issue, more tolerable: Addict. I had to "adapt" to using only words, thoughts, presentations, pieces of paper and ink pens to alter things.

I had no idea that a simple "goal setting" posted suggestion was going to cause this response. But, you have helped me to realize one thing about myself whether that be good or bad, and that is that it's "All or nothing"....oh my.."in or out"..."off or on". I've got things to think about for sure.

I am not near psychosis friend, I am psychotic and have been for 46 friggin years. Which explains these lovely (anti-psychotic) medications of course. OCD, yes..confirmed.

Ok, KEEP IT SIMPLE as you've ordered.

My goal: Find my "balance" of life. Shit, is that too complicated???

No, I think not because it is a must do situation for me. Find the appropriate balance of time for me, family, friends, kids, grandkids, and try to....YES!!!

GOAL: Find a new hobby or something else that I enjoy, BUT, limit myself to promote a "Healthy Balance and Perfect Harmony"....

I truly appreciate this suggestion Dave, more than words can present, explain, or convince.


Chris.. :D

[Ponder]

Hi Chris - Looks like you have a bit to work on there and I wish you the best with that. I have some things in common, but mostly the addiction of being caught up in everything I do - now having crashed somewhat. I need to tap in to some of my old get up and go, however with out the intensity in which would often drive me into the ground.


GOALS FOR TODAY!


Pack car Trailer
Do some more cleaning and tidy shed

[Ponder]

Amber what are some of your more present goals?
PS You are welcome Chris. ;)

[AmberGbenga]

Well goals presently:

-eat healthy and go to gym as much as possible
-become mentally healthy( positive, self love etc)
-going to docs today, general health check
-phyc on Thursday.. Nervous as hell!

Near future goals:
-conquer my anxiety!!
-find a job in Hawaii
-apply for visa
-find a place to live in Hawaii
-pay of my Australian debt.. Uhh..
-save as much money as possible
-buy plane ticket
-move to Hawaii.... Ahhhh!!!!!
-get engaged

Long term:
-move to New York
-get married
-find a place in Australia
-move to Australia
-have babies
-love happier ever after :D

[Enduronman]

Thank you very MUCH Ponder,

I had no idea that I would go to those places in this jumbled mess of a mind, but I really appreciate your inspiration to do so.
I had read on another post that you also took a WALK..and
Got back on your meds too..
Both of those are HUGE accomplishments friend and I too had to do the same with the walking part, and also the medicational aspect of that too last month..
(although I refused them for exactly 1 year)....
Life just wasn't "tolerable" in many varying degrees, levels, dimensions...
It was impacting and affecting, everyone around me. I wasn't being fair to them.

Wow look at Amber's lists!!...
Love the energy you emit too BimberGbenga!

E-Man..:)

[AmberGbenga]

It's all bloody terrifying! Makes me want to run away.. But hey gotta do what ya gotta do

[Enduronman]

Yes, your lists is more horrifying to me, then my own list!....LOL!!!
:)

[Dahila]

mine is short :) tomorrow I will make tiny pierogies with mushrooms for Xmas eve supper, Polish people celebrate the Xmas eve. Next week i plan to make my first batch of soap and that'it no more planing, I learned to plan only 3 to 5 days.
Long term goal; stop eating my wonderful bread and change the size for smaller :))

[Ponder]

GOAL REACHED FOR ME!!!!!

Next goal is to wash the outside house windows!

[Ponder]

OK, did the windows ... NEXT clean more walls in the house!

[Dahila]

First soap, then hated grocery shopping :)

[Ponder]

Hi Frankiecfc - So True, however when I start painting I then discover just how much their is to that as well. - lol though, I know what you mean. I will have to do another quick wipe down before we move. Please feel at ease to join us with the goal setting. It really is only for little things as far as I am concerned. I struggle with pinging to much on the future and from what I have learned, doing so is not as healthy as such is sold.

So good to see you again Dahila - and more so with your little goal setting as well. It's helping me get things done, just having others in here to either say hi or make a little goal themselves. I know what you mean about shopping. I like ordering and having it delivered for a small cost that seams worthwhile for me, however Lisa is not so keen on it, due to the thinking ahead involved and always remembering something that we forgot but is too late. I just don't like the lines and people - especially the rude ones that take up the isles with chit chat - "Oh So lovely to see you, how's the kids and bla bla bla .... " LOL ... "excuse me, I'd like to get by - that is of course. if you don't *&^%ing mind!" hehe

Well perhaps not quite so, but I do have to work on my fascial expressions.
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Today finish the hall way walls!!!! and if possible do the yard again and get some sun!

[Dahila]

frankiecfc congratulation , I bet you won with the fear and had at least ten minutes of walk. Even if it was 5 is fine. Small steps, remember, the one who runs, get weak quickly. The small steps will take you far away:)) Good luck, and smile:)

[Ponder]

May I ask what the book Title is? I like mindfulness topics. The thing I found with it for me, is that the topic is much more than what it is seems at first. It's an evolving process that is quite beneficial with my own phobias and or attachments. I wish I could explain those benefits I have found with such a concept but don't't want to drag this response out.

I am all for everything your are aiming for - WALKING! It's also a great way to experience the concept of mindfulness. I have a topic elsewhere embedded in this section of the forum called "walking amongst the trees" I must return to it one day soon, as it was a good place for me to talk about life without all the worried that plague me during such times as I now feed into lately.

One thing that seems to put people off is a sense of spirituality that comes with mindfulness. I think there is a fear to making contact with our deeper selves and the things around them. Its a whole new dimension that opens us up without regard to the current ways of thinking - that whole saga society clings too - it's different and when sort after with genuine intent - it truly is beautiful!

May I recommend a book for you - It's called "Healing Walks for Hard Times"

http://www.amazon.com/Healing-Walks-Hard-Times-Strengthen/dp/1590307402

My background is a lot different to such authors, however such is the power of mindfulness as it's being taught today, that it breaks down barriers and helps anyone that wants to be helped. None of that religious nonsense that beckons denominations and expectations - this stuff is real and does not discriminate.

Wishing you well in your walks and other goals. :)

[Ponder]

reading ..........

[Cullingford]

I had a lovely walk today an hour along the river and managed to avoid people the whole time (heaven). As for goals

Be more sociable
Take more photographs
Not be rude to mother in law (well try).

[Enduronman]

To stop over-thinking giving myself this stupid shot in the gut..and just do it already...it's still an "odd" experience. :/

[Ponder]

aaarrrggghhhhhhhhhhhhhh -. frankiecfc I did as good a reply I could think for you ---- and lost the lot :(

I'm all out of steam for now ------------- I can only wish you the very best and fully encourage you to read what you can at your own pace. Thank you for your reply as to others for chipping in as well.

I too did not end up going for my walk - however cullingfords discription (hello) ispires me for sure.

[Dahila]

frankiecfc it is very difficult to stop the stream of thoughts. when you do, which happened to me for a few seconds, it is bliss. Our mind is like a jumping monkey will try everything to take us off the goal. I have a small book which is teaching you the meditation, I think it is very good, Nothing about religion, There is a chapter with direction about mindfulness. Of course I had a epic fail , I can not control the monkey... not anymore. I will try it again though.
No matter how small are our steps as long as it takes us somewhere....

[Enduronman]

Agreed,..I am also inspired for some reason..where's my syringe. :)

[Dahila]

I think the monkey is accurate,
Frankie do you need a book? It is 8 minutes of meditation. If you do so, send me a message with email address. unfortunately I can not attach anything through forum;) BTW what are you doing here at this hour?
Enduronman, trying to be funny? :slywink:

[Enduronman]

Ya think doll?..It's the ONLY thing that keeps me from going Taz on this earthen planet we call...home.. LOL! :)

[Dahila]

Ok but the book is "8 minute meditation" by Victor Davich. It helped me a lot. :cool:

[Cullingford]

792

Hello Ponder I took a picture on my phone whilst I was out hope it works.;)

[Cullingford]

My god that was amazing for me i,m such a thickett when is comes to this stuff.

[Ponder]

THANK YOU for sharing that. I love personal photos like these. What's the temperature like over this time of the year? Are you able to find a spot to sit, or do you just take it all in as you walk along. Water is always calming - is there much in the way of birds and fish with this spot?

Please do share more if your able - very interested to see other parts of the world and is also a great way to describe what you see.

Thanks again for that Cullingford! :)
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Tomorrow I do last bit of cleaning before traveling to the new town, we propose to move to. I will also look after my daughters dogs while she has a little holiday. I will take some snap shots too.

[Cullingford]

Hi I did enjoy your pictures in the bush especially you and your mate having a brew up. The weather was good here yesterday, but nasty wet and cold today about 8 c. This is a fantastic place for bird watching, for lots of migrants this is the first stop over the north sea from europe.

There are loads of places to sit and fish we used to catch eels here alot, my mum used to go mental all my clothes were covered in mud and eel snot ( the original play station).
Look foward to seeing snaps of the new town.

All the best

[Cullingford]

Well done Frankie, just take it nice and steady you must be very proud of yourself for doing it. I hope the weather was'nt as crappy there as it is here, I personally dont suffer from agraphobia so can only imagine how isolating it must be for you.
You should be very proud of yourself for facing this so bravely.
I hope you have a really good xmas.
Cully

[Ponder]

Goal for tomorrow is to drive safely during the 5 hour Road Trip to the coast.

Also to enjoy it as just yet another day.

[Ponder]

Must go capture some Sun with both body and camera!

[Stiggy333]

I must finally go to a dentist. But they scare the crap outta me.

[Dahila]

Must dress well and clear out the driveway, 25 cm of snow;( that's my goal for today :)

[Ponder]

You look good in anything Dahila, but understand presentations helps - If only I could find the ultimate jocks that fit me well. Sigh -

must now clean Back room!

Good luck with the drive way Dahila and also with the dentist Stiggy - just think, you will have Hollywood teeth. :)

[Dahila]

driveway was cleared for a few hours, driving is very dangerous today, very cold:(
my goal for now to get rested:))

[Ponder]

great Idea - me too :)

[Dahila]

it is so cold outside, inside ice on my windows, I can not think of anything else, let's try to survive the cold and get safely to work and back to home:))

[Dahila]

Thank you Frankie, I am sending you some warming thoughts and congratulation on the achievement. YOur success is our success, it gives the hope to others :))

[Cullingford]

Hi guys, Poor Dahila you are always clearing that driveway! must be bloomin chilly if you have ice inside the windows brrrr. Well done Dave with all your house stuff sounds like its keeping you really busy, And you Frankie im very proud of all you have done in such a short time A+ for you all.

[Dahila]

Someone feels sorry for me, that it, I deserve it:)) Cullingford you are a sweetheart, ;))

[Ponder]

Finish dog fence

Setup non drug addict Son's computer table.

Assist wife's new high needs!

Setup kitchen

Take the wife's wheelchair for a spin ... the wife can come too. Hahaha.

Work out finances and do grocery shopping.

Find some support!

[Dahila]

wowwwwwww Nice to see you Mr. Ponder,;)) the list is kind of long, it is for today ?