petrified
11-02-2013, 07:53 PM
Hi everyone I'm having a really tough night I'm trying everything to sleep but have loads of thoughts running through my head. I'm about to ramble on and I'm really truly not looking for sympathy I just need to tell someone, anyone how in feeling and what the thoughts in my head are. Here goes!
Well it all started as I was trying to figure out why I suddenly feel so low and so my life starts going through my head as to try and get to the cause. I'm thinking could it be that my mam died when I was three and my dad turned to drink? But then I feel guilty as it wasn't my mams fault she died and my dad was left a widow at 30 year old with two young girls to bring up. I do admire and love my dad unreal amounts even though he has made bad choices. He managed to hold a full time job, raise me and my sister and be an alcoholic. Which gets me thinking maybe I caused the alcoholism somehow :-/
Secondly as my dad worked shifts in his job I spent half my time growing up at my grandmas (my mams, mam). We had alot of visitors there like aunts and uncles. Well my uncle took a particular liking to me when I was around about 7 and often used to like to get me alone where he wasn't very nice and abused me sexually until I was about 12. I eventually told my dad when I was 14 and we went to the police, but my whole family apart from my dad and sister turned against me. I now have no contact with my mams side of the family. The police couldn't get a strong enough case as the family said I had never been alone with him. I'm now thinking was it my fault he did it as when I was little I always wanted attention from him!
I used to babysit for a neighbour who had two small children and a teenage son. I used to end up sleeping over as she liked to go clubbing and wasn't back until the early hours. Anyway one night a friend of her teenage son came in while I was sleeping and forced his self on me and I fell pregnant as a result. I was 14. I didn't and still haven't told anyone about the pregnancy I drank and took recreational drugs until I miscarried. I feel absolutely horrendous doing that and I'm in tears now writing this. I never have been to the police about it after previous experiences.
I met my husband at 15 and my life got a million times better. By then my dad had a new alcoholic wife a wasn't bothered that I had moved in with my husband aged 15. My life got loads better and I fell pregnant with my son aged 16 and had him when I was 17.
My father in law died when my husband was 22 and I was 19 and my husband turned to alcohol. He nearly died a year and a half ago through alcoholism he was very poorly and still is too an extent he's only 30. All the years he drank he blamed me and my nagging for his drinking which leads me to believe I caused his and my fathers drinking problems. That if I hadn't been in their lives they would of been fine. I have always stood by my husband and love him unreal amounts but my thoughts are still here. It must have been my fault. We had a miscarriage a year after my son was born which I blame my previous miscarriage on, I feel it's a punishment for me!
I'm currently having cbt but might see my doctor about some other therapy as writing this all down makes me realise I have a lot of issues. Just wish I could get rid of these stupid feelings and feeling so down. I hate wallowing and living I the past it's not me! I should be stronger than this! I always have been. I'm only 27 but at the minute feel 87 I need to suck it up grrrrrrr.
Sorry for rambling I really hope this helps me sleep. I just had to get it off my chest and didnt no where else to write it.
Sorry again goodnight everyone :-)
Well it all started as I was trying to figure out why I suddenly feel so low and so my life starts going through my head as to try and get to the cause. I'm thinking could it be that my mam died when I was three and my dad turned to drink? But then I feel guilty as it wasn't my mams fault she died and my dad was left a widow at 30 year old with two young girls to bring up. I do admire and love my dad unreal amounts even though he has made bad choices. He managed to hold a full time job, raise me and my sister and be an alcoholic. Which gets me thinking maybe I caused the alcoholism somehow :-/
Secondly as my dad worked shifts in his job I spent half my time growing up at my grandmas (my mams, mam). We had alot of visitors there like aunts and uncles. Well my uncle took a particular liking to me when I was around about 7 and often used to like to get me alone where he wasn't very nice and abused me sexually until I was about 12. I eventually told my dad when I was 14 and we went to the police, but my whole family apart from my dad and sister turned against me. I now have no contact with my mams side of the family. The police couldn't get a strong enough case as the family said I had never been alone with him. I'm now thinking was it my fault he did it as when I was little I always wanted attention from him!
I used to babysit for a neighbour who had two small children and a teenage son. I used to end up sleeping over as she liked to go clubbing and wasn't back until the early hours. Anyway one night a friend of her teenage son came in while I was sleeping and forced his self on me and I fell pregnant as a result. I was 14. I didn't and still haven't told anyone about the pregnancy I drank and took recreational drugs until I miscarried. I feel absolutely horrendous doing that and I'm in tears now writing this. I never have been to the police about it after previous experiences.
I met my husband at 15 and my life got a million times better. By then my dad had a new alcoholic wife a wasn't bothered that I had moved in with my husband aged 15. My life got loads better and I fell pregnant with my son aged 16 and had him when I was 17.
My father in law died when my husband was 22 and I was 19 and my husband turned to alcohol. He nearly died a year and a half ago through alcoholism he was very poorly and still is too an extent he's only 30. All the years he drank he blamed me and my nagging for his drinking which leads me to believe I caused his and my fathers drinking problems. That if I hadn't been in their lives they would of been fine. I have always stood by my husband and love him unreal amounts but my thoughts are still here. It must have been my fault. We had a miscarriage a year after my son was born which I blame my previous miscarriage on, I feel it's a punishment for me!
I'm currently having cbt but might see my doctor about some other therapy as writing this all down makes me realise I have a lot of issues. Just wish I could get rid of these stupid feelings and feeling so down. I hate wallowing and living I the past it's not me! I should be stronger than this! I always have been. I'm only 27 but at the minute feel 87 I need to suck it up grrrrrrr.
Sorry for rambling I really hope this helps me sleep. I just had to get it off my chest and didnt no where else to write it.
Sorry again goodnight everyone :-)