hi, I'm new here. please help...

[blinded]

I have this problem where my brain likes to torture itself. When I feel sad I start to think about other things that depress me. What should I do?

[tailspin]

Hi blinded, Welcome to the site! I can really relate to what you say here. I also have a problem with feeling sad a lot. And my brain is good at torturing itself too.

I find that distraction is helpful. Also keeping busy and trying to be productive. Exercise is a good antidote too. And spending time with good friends (even if I often don't feel like socializing).

Are you getting any professional help for your depression? Therapy or medication?

[blinded]

Thanks. But funny enough, my brain already found that kind of solution a long time ago. Running away from my problem only helped like a temporary pain reliever, and only created a new problem, procrastination and distraction.
I don't talk to anyone about my problems because I'm afraid I'd just cry too much and they won't understand a word I'm saying, usually I don't have a problem writing things down, like a chat room. Also I don't have many friends and have a strong trust with the few that I have, so that's out of the question.
Also, I don't know how to get medication without letting my parents finding out. Kinda don't want them to find out that they are a piece of the problem just yet.
Basically you can sum it up that I lived a cowardly life.

[tailspin]

Thanks. But funny enough, my brain already found that kind of solution a long time ago. Running away from my problem only helped like a temporary pain reliever, and only created a new problem, procrastination and distraction.
I don't talk to anyone about my problems because I'm afraid I'd just cry too much and they won't understand a word I'm saying, usually I don't have a problem writing things down, like a chat room. Also I don't have many friends and have a strong trust with the few that I have, so that's out of the question.
Also, I don't know how to get medication without letting my parents finding out. Kinda don't want them to find out that they are a piece of the problem just yet.
Basically you can sum it up that I lived a cowardly life.

Excellent point about too much distraction and procrastination becoming a problem in itself. That's true.

Are you still at school? Is there anyone there - say a counselor of some kind - who you could talk to?

[blinded]

Yeah, but I just cry and cannot say a word clearly, I'm comfortable with chat rooms and strangers.
Aren't I strange?

[tailspin]

Yeah, but I just cry and cannot say a word clearly, I'm comfortable with chat rooms and strangers.
Aren't I strange?

A lot of us are here are strange, blinded!! :D So you are not alone! Actually, I think it's pretty common for people to find it easier to open up anonymously, for example on a site like this. Also, there is a lot of useful information here, and plenty of friendly folks! I hope it helps you to spend some time here and that you get some ideas on how it might be possible to get help in your real life.

[blinded]

^_^ thanks~ I'm glad to find someone to talk to.

[skarsgardd]

I find that the only way I can really deal with it, is to make sure I'm spending at least one or two nights after work on my own, doing nothing. As in, with no plans. So I get home, and if I'm sad I let myself get sad and cry and do whatever freaking out I need to do, but then I decide that I'm not going to do it tomorrow. I make sure I have plans at least two or three nights in the week, and even if I don't feel like going, I go. That way I'm like... not letting myself wallow, but I'm giving myself enough time to actually let all of my emotions out and stuff. People always tell me to get out and distract myself, and thats fine and definitely true, but you gotta be able to be on your own too. It's all about balance, I guess.

[tailspin]

I find that the only way I can really deal with it, is to make sure I'm spending at least one or two nights after work on my own, doing nothing. As in, with no plans. So I get home, and if I'm sad I let myself get sad and cry and do whatever freaking out I need to do, but then I decide that I'm not going to do it tomorrow. I make sure I have plans at least two or three nights in the week, and even if I don't feel like going, I go. That way I'm like... not letting myself wallow, but I'm giving myself enough time to actually let all of my emotions out and stuff. People always tell me to get out and distract myself, and thats fine and definitely true, but you gotta be able to be on your own too. It's all about balance, I guess.

Great post and great strategy! That definitely sounds like a good plan.

[Lin]

Sounds like you have depression and that is why your head keeps thinking of bad things. My head goes completely off track and I can't control it and do stupid things.
Heads are terrible things when they go wrong and it is so individual that it is not easy for doctors and psychiatrists to get us well quickly.
Hope you find the forum useful and helpful.