I need help

[Ariteg]

Hello! I discovered this forum today, I must have anxiaty problems but never asked for professional help ... when I was in school I was always so anxious that walked away from the other kids, the conversation always seemed to me like interrogation, I did not know what to say, and fled from them, was always alone, i run from then....

Now I'm 30 and I have no friends, no boyfriend and never had, my biggest problem is that I never know what to say ... I'm always in silence, in work pretty i much just say "good morning" and "good evening" and only speak when they ask me anything ... I am able to stay the entire day without saying anything and think and think and never know what to say .... and in the few times that I have something to say I speak so low that no one listens to me, I have trouble projecting my voice, I shake and of course if someone talks to me I'm just blushing .... and the worst is that it is not only with strangers, also happens to my family and on the internet is the same thing ... a lot of times I think I'm so deep that no longer have salvation ...

This also happens with you? I do not know if I have FB or if I'm just dumb….

[tailspin]

Hi Ariteg, Welcome! It's great you are reaching out here. This site is a very good place to share experiences with people who really understand how you feel. I'm so sorry you are struggling like this. My first thought is that some kind of counseling or therapy could be very beneficial. I would definitely recommend some professional help. Is this something you could look into?

[Lin]

Welcome to the forum, hope you find it as helpful and friendly as I have.

As Tailspin says above, you really should try and get some professional help. There are all sorts of talking therapies which could help you with your confidence. If you got some confidence everything else might get better.

I am trying meditation and hypnotherapy at the moment. I go to meditation groups which make me go out and which help with my depression and my head problems. The hypnotherapy is really targeted at your personal problems and you get a CD to practise with every day. I have been finding it helpful and other people have said I am better since been doing it.

So worth trying to get some professional help and also any other help suggested to you so that you can start enjoying life.

[NeverToo...Fear]

Welcome to the site, Ariteg :)

Sounds like social awkwardness..I don't think it means you are dumb. Hah, I have a pretty good problem talking to ppl as well, also feeling as though I never know what to say..not to mention my voice is pretty quiet, and when I do speak up I start stumbling over my words cause now they are paying attention...awkward to say the least.
I guess you should ask yourself if this situation you are in really bothers you? Like the people at work, do you want to have conversations with them and say more than what you are saying now? If so maybe in addition to some therapy, you could practice your social game in a place where you feel more comfortable?..I know you said it happens with family and the internet...but you are here and with people that understand and not judge, so why not give it a go? :)