Lost84
09-17-2013, 04:13 AM
My ex fiancé left me about 2 months ago saying he didn't love me anymore and needed space to figure out how to be happy again. From research I know this isn't uncommon but I'm a bit lost as to what to do. He seems to be ok around his parents but only sees them once every week/2 weeks, he has said to me before he's a good actor although because we lived together he couldn't act all the time and I'd notice. He moved out and he seems to have really shut me out to the point that I don't hear from him anymore unless its some form of rejection. When I saw him 5 weeks ago he seemed very calm but would slip up now and again and I found his behaviour very confusing.
Is it normal to push away the person you love? Why is it just me he seems to be rejecting? How long do these episodes last? He's not getting help and not sure if he's convinced himself he's now fine because I'm gone. It's so confusing knowing what to do for the best. We jointly own our house but he said we'll discuss what to do nearer Christmas but I can't help feel he's run away, when his parents ask he has no plan for the future.
I should also add I first noticed a change in him last December and he left me for the night, saying he couldn't handle responsibility, didn't think he loved me, didn't want to get married but its considerably getting worse (because its been so long since I saw him last I don't really know how he is now). He admitted to me before he left he's thought about suicide and that wasn't the first time he said it.
As previously stated in some of my posts I'm now suffering with anxiety quite badly due to the future being so uncertain so I think understanding a bit more will help me xxx
Is it normal to push away the person you love? Why is it just me he seems to be rejecting? How long do these episodes last? He's not getting help and not sure if he's convinced himself he's now fine because I'm gone. It's so confusing knowing what to do for the best. We jointly own our house but he said we'll discuss what to do nearer Christmas but I can't help feel he's run away, when his parents ask he has no plan for the future.
I should also add I first noticed a change in him last December and he left me for the night, saying he couldn't handle responsibility, didn't think he loved me, didn't want to get married but its considerably getting worse (because its been so long since I saw him last I don't really know how he is now). He admitted to me before he left he's thought about suicide and that wasn't the first time he said it.
As previously stated in some of my posts I'm now suffering with anxiety quite badly due to the future being so uncertain so I think understanding a bit more will help me xxx