Jeordie
11-19-2007, 07:11 AM
**Edit**
I've mistaken to type the post's subject. Which it really is:
"being, or feeling, ugly. etc."
I've been told I'm not that good-looking. I've been told I'm quite good looking. I've been told I'm alright. I've been told I'm normal. I've been told that I'm ugly, sometimes. I've been told pretty much everything about my physical appearance.
I've been told I'm smart and intelligent, but I've also been insulted dozens of times with words such as "idiot" and "stupid". Sometimes I didn't get why I've been told so, so I thought I must really be not that intelligent.
I've been called very cool and a nerdy weirdo loser. Sometimes in the same day, same hour, even by the same person.
I've also been called skinny, fat and alright in the same day.
I've seen signes of extreme social refusal and great acceptance in the same fucking situation and hour.
People are not the same. They're different. They think differently about the same thing. Also, they're not all of the same level, intelligence, and ethetic taste.
So, the fact is, none of these people who called me that or that is either wrong or right. I've decided they're just words, without much relevance. If I get a compliment, I say thanks, if I don't, I walk away, thinking it doesn't matter, that I'm alright anyway and I don't need to prove it.
The myth of physical appearance, for example. Sometimes I look in the mirror and see a nice looking guy, or even hot enough I'd like to do him. Sometimes I refuse to accept I look like that. And complain to God, because shit, it's not my fault.
Anyhow, now I'm more calm about it and that's what I wanted to share.
Don't go in a club or shopping thinking you're that or that. That's instable. That's not going to last. You can't be great looking all the time, and you can't be ugly all the time. Actors and models do feel ugly from time to time. Actually more than others. They just gave up proving people they're handsome or not, they just do their thing and live their life and it's a crazy misconception to think that because we perceive them looking great with great make up and great setting and lighting, they really are all the time and they never ever think they're ugly.
Read the real interviews. Jude Law. Halle Berry. Uma Thurman. Patrick Dempsey. These four "dreamy" people do not perceive themselves as beautiful. It doesn't matter a shit what others think. They don't see themselves that way. Period. They know themselves. They look at themselves at the mirror every morning and sometimes have a bad reaction, as any other person in the world.
They key is accepting and loving oneself and stop giving names to things and people. Including one him or herself.
We as western people are stupid. Only intelligent people realize we're stupid, too stupid to be real. We are stupid because we're obsessed with external appearance and feedback and we're obsessed with labelling things and people in a specific way expecting that label to be the only way that thing or person can be called. BULLSHIT. Every time. Bullshit. Nobody, nobody of us is just one thing. We're all good and ugly at the same time.
Obviously, not everybody is ready to give up the abitudinary idiocy that makes our society a more difficult place to cope with. For good looking and not good looking people alike.
As a wise person, speak only when you have something useful and good to say. Also speak to yourself in the same way. Stop criticizing. It's useless. It's counterproductive.
I've mistaken to type the post's subject. Which it really is:
"being, or feeling, ugly. etc."
I've been told I'm not that good-looking. I've been told I'm quite good looking. I've been told I'm alright. I've been told I'm normal. I've been told that I'm ugly, sometimes. I've been told pretty much everything about my physical appearance.
I've been told I'm smart and intelligent, but I've also been insulted dozens of times with words such as "idiot" and "stupid". Sometimes I didn't get why I've been told so, so I thought I must really be not that intelligent.
I've been called very cool and a nerdy weirdo loser. Sometimes in the same day, same hour, even by the same person.
I've also been called skinny, fat and alright in the same day.
I've seen signes of extreme social refusal and great acceptance in the same fucking situation and hour.
People are not the same. They're different. They think differently about the same thing. Also, they're not all of the same level, intelligence, and ethetic taste.
So, the fact is, none of these people who called me that or that is either wrong or right. I've decided they're just words, without much relevance. If I get a compliment, I say thanks, if I don't, I walk away, thinking it doesn't matter, that I'm alright anyway and I don't need to prove it.
The myth of physical appearance, for example. Sometimes I look in the mirror and see a nice looking guy, or even hot enough I'd like to do him. Sometimes I refuse to accept I look like that. And complain to God, because shit, it's not my fault.
Anyhow, now I'm more calm about it and that's what I wanted to share.
Don't go in a club or shopping thinking you're that or that. That's instable. That's not going to last. You can't be great looking all the time, and you can't be ugly all the time. Actors and models do feel ugly from time to time. Actually more than others. They just gave up proving people they're handsome or not, they just do their thing and live their life and it's a crazy misconception to think that because we perceive them looking great with great make up and great setting and lighting, they really are all the time and they never ever think they're ugly.
Read the real interviews. Jude Law. Halle Berry. Uma Thurman. Patrick Dempsey. These four "dreamy" people do not perceive themselves as beautiful. It doesn't matter a shit what others think. They don't see themselves that way. Period. They know themselves. They look at themselves at the mirror every morning and sometimes have a bad reaction, as any other person in the world.
They key is accepting and loving oneself and stop giving names to things and people. Including one him or herself.
We as western people are stupid. Only intelligent people realize we're stupid, too stupid to be real. We are stupid because we're obsessed with external appearance and feedback and we're obsessed with labelling things and people in a specific way expecting that label to be the only way that thing or person can be called. BULLSHIT. Every time. Bullshit. Nobody, nobody of us is just one thing. We're all good and ugly at the same time.
Obviously, not everybody is ready to give up the abitudinary idiocy that makes our society a more difficult place to cope with. For good looking and not good looking people alike.
As a wise person, speak only when you have something useful and good to say. Also speak to yourself in the same way. Stop criticizing. It's useless. It's counterproductive.