Fiancé that doesn't understand

[Kashe]

Even on medication, I tend to NEED space ( or I think I'm suffocating). We have talked about it and he has been to a counselor with me, but I can tell he still doesn't understand that I can't control it.
I worry because I see some of my depression/ anxiety symptoms coming over him. It's contagious!
How can I calm him down, when I'm at my worst? :/

[Lin]

We have been married for 28 years and this time my husband is incapable of understanding my depression or helping me at all. I am not even able to talk to him about it or show any signs of depression.
I have been told that it is just as hard for 'carers' as it is for us going through it. Hard to accept when feeling really bad but I have seen the effect of my stupid acts recently on my husband and can see how much I hurt him by what I do. I think we have to accept that unless you have personal experience or medical training of it, you just can't understand.