Sudden depression when I'm left alone at night

[Xathian]

I suffer from anxiety disorder but that's not really part of this problem, maybe it helps to lay that out before I talk, I don't know.

I'm 23. All my life, I've been extremely close with my brother, he is my best friend. We live together and basically we spend every single day together. Watch movies, TV, play video games. All of our free time is typically spent together. As of the a couple weeks ago, every night when he heads off to bed and I'm left to just relax in my room alone, I suddenly become so badly depressed that I can't stop crying for hours on end.

I get this very horrible crushing feeling, like there is no future. Like tomorrow he's going to just get bored of me and then I'm all alone. This has never been an issue for me, before it was a matter of "See you tomorrow" then I'd just watch TV or play a game or go online and read and then go to bed no problem. Now I just sit in bed feeling like everything is lost, and I can't even play a game or watch TV or anything without wishing he or anyone was around so I wouldn't be so alone. Eventually I'll end up falling asleep and the next day I'll wake up, and go and talk to him, play games, laugh, have a great time like it's a normal day and I'll feel totally happy again, until the night.

I've experienced some depression before, doctor said it was common to feel with anxiety disorder, but never anything like this. I feel so terrible. I don't know what to do and I just want to feel normal, have great days and normal nights like I used to.

[Zelbo]

Hi there,
Don't feel like you are lost because you are not, think about how your brother feels, you are grown up you can't be with him every min, imagine how it feels when you are in a relationship, be brave, don't think you are lost, you have time to find new friends and do something.

[mid]

Try getting more liquid in during the day, and find a comfort scene to relax with at night time.

What happens when you are in transition from child to adult is the night-time switch goes all the way up. So, pick out your favorite blanket, pillow, and find a comfortable zone to relax in. It will help you be calm through this time.

Best wishes.

[Ahlstrom]

I've got the same problem. My anxiety, and in turn depressive feelings, go up at night when my family goes to bed. I don't wake up til 11am and can't fall asleep til 2am, so I spend maybe 4 or 5 hours feeling anxious and depressive because every one is asleep... Weird.

[Christopher H.]

I got the same problem but its not associated with having somebody around me. Just for some reason come around the end of the day I feel terrible and have extremely negative thoughts completely sure that there is no chance of me being successful in the future. I don't know why this happens, but what I do is I do my best to endure it and remind myself that my current thoughts are caused by the time of the day and that I will be thinking a lot more positive in time come. Or ill just go to bed, I call it resetting, knowing that a good nights rest makes me feel a lot better the next morning.