Duckwagon
06-13-2013, 08:34 PM
Hey all,
I thought It'd be nice to expand my support group a little.
Before I start complaining, I do want to make it clear. I love my life, and there are some amazing aspects of my life I can only thank God for. (I'm active in my church.) I have a wonderful group of support involving family, friends, and my bishop (congregational leader) as well as the occasional professional. I have many talents and gifts and opportunities which, if hard for me to acknowledge or accept as part of my emotional 'identity', have given me much joy in sharing. I have a few places in my life that are, if inexplicably, functional and fulfilling. I have a great job which I enjoy and excel at, and I love to sing and have many opportunities to do so.
While I love my life, the people in it, and many aspects of it, I am struggling beyond what I have ever experienced. I have some severe depression, anxiety, and similar issues. This has led to a vicious cycle of helplessness and functional paralysis, addiction, and hopelessness. The support I have at times is nothing more than the kind where they leave you alone because it's too taxing to confront you about your problems and misbehavior.
Anyway... enough rambling.
I'm just tired, and frustrated, and angry. I want things to change, but I feel like I'm doing all I can to change my life but I'm getting nothing in return. Vague. Um... I live at home, moving out or getting another job so I can move out completely overwhelms me with hopelessness and anxiety. Single, lonely, and lots of opportunities, but no confidence to try. Well, I have the confidence. I know I can do it. I just don't like myself, and the same walls that keep me from getting better keep me from trying. I want to go to college but I've bombed twice, I can't, I need to be sure I can succeed in the first place before I screw up my future trying.
I want to improve my work situation, but same ol' on getting a job in the first place (I was forced, thankfully, for this one). Moving forward where I am requires I face directly these stupid social anxieties, and actually talk to people (le gasp!).
So in short, I'm overwhelmed, I feel like I have too many options, and none of them helpful ones. I feel like the issues I deal with are too big to define, let alone face head on, let alone by myself. I've tried everything, I feel like. I feel like I've lost any try. I mean, I have long term try - I'm not about to give up - but I'm just not capable of trying anything new. So I'll argue with people, and I just look belligerent and like I'm not even trying. Well, I guess I'm not trying to get better, but it doesn't mean I'm not struggling to get better.
Obviously, living at home and contributing little to nothing causes some relational issues, and it's hard to get support from some people if I can get someone to acknowledge that I'm struggling in the first place. That I'm not stupid, lazy, of 'low moral fiber' or just plain dishonest and despicable and disgusting that I live the way I do.
Does any of that make sense? I have enough emotional sensitivity to understand that there's a difference between what I think and what I feel. I'm not stupid. That gap is a big part of my problem.
I just want a way to find that elusive hope, or try, or whatever that ridiculous switch is that suddenly makes me capable and functional and clear-headed and driven. I've got the 'grit', I just don't have the 'hustle'. The hard part isn't knowing I can't do it; it's knowing I can but feeling and finding that I can't no matter how hard I try, what I try, who I enlist, or even how hard I pray. It's not actually thinking I am worthless, it's knowing I am of immeasurable worth, and being unable to feel it for myself, or find evidence of it in the real world.
...anway, I'm good now. I just needed a good rant.
Thanks.
I thought It'd be nice to expand my support group a little.
Before I start complaining, I do want to make it clear. I love my life, and there are some amazing aspects of my life I can only thank God for. (I'm active in my church.) I have a wonderful group of support involving family, friends, and my bishop (congregational leader) as well as the occasional professional. I have many talents and gifts and opportunities which, if hard for me to acknowledge or accept as part of my emotional 'identity', have given me much joy in sharing. I have a few places in my life that are, if inexplicably, functional and fulfilling. I have a great job which I enjoy and excel at, and I love to sing and have many opportunities to do so.
While I love my life, the people in it, and many aspects of it, I am struggling beyond what I have ever experienced. I have some severe depression, anxiety, and similar issues. This has led to a vicious cycle of helplessness and functional paralysis, addiction, and hopelessness. The support I have at times is nothing more than the kind where they leave you alone because it's too taxing to confront you about your problems and misbehavior.
Anyway... enough rambling.
I'm just tired, and frustrated, and angry. I want things to change, but I feel like I'm doing all I can to change my life but I'm getting nothing in return. Vague. Um... I live at home, moving out or getting another job so I can move out completely overwhelms me with hopelessness and anxiety. Single, lonely, and lots of opportunities, but no confidence to try. Well, I have the confidence. I know I can do it. I just don't like myself, and the same walls that keep me from getting better keep me from trying. I want to go to college but I've bombed twice, I can't, I need to be sure I can succeed in the first place before I screw up my future trying.
I want to improve my work situation, but same ol' on getting a job in the first place (I was forced, thankfully, for this one). Moving forward where I am requires I face directly these stupid social anxieties, and actually talk to people (le gasp!).
So in short, I'm overwhelmed, I feel like I have too many options, and none of them helpful ones. I feel like the issues I deal with are too big to define, let alone face head on, let alone by myself. I've tried everything, I feel like. I feel like I've lost any try. I mean, I have long term try - I'm not about to give up - but I'm just not capable of trying anything new. So I'll argue with people, and I just look belligerent and like I'm not even trying. Well, I guess I'm not trying to get better, but it doesn't mean I'm not struggling to get better.
Obviously, living at home and contributing little to nothing causes some relational issues, and it's hard to get support from some people if I can get someone to acknowledge that I'm struggling in the first place. That I'm not stupid, lazy, of 'low moral fiber' or just plain dishonest and despicable and disgusting that I live the way I do.
Does any of that make sense? I have enough emotional sensitivity to understand that there's a difference between what I think and what I feel. I'm not stupid. That gap is a big part of my problem.
I just want a way to find that elusive hope, or try, or whatever that ridiculous switch is that suddenly makes me capable and functional and clear-headed and driven. I've got the 'grit', I just don't have the 'hustle'. The hard part isn't knowing I can't do it; it's knowing I can but feeling and finding that I can't no matter how hard I try, what I try, who I enlist, or even how hard I pray. It's not actually thinking I am worthless, it's knowing I am of immeasurable worth, and being unable to feel it for myself, or find evidence of it in the real world.
...anway, I'm good now. I just needed a good rant.
Thanks.