Seperation/GAD

[killthefear]

First post. Ill try to keep it short with some details! 31 yrs old. Was married for 5 yrs but with her since I was 15. We divorced because she cheated.my parents were married for 23 yrs before my dad cheated and had a son. In the last 15 yrs I've have lost six family members to unexpected deaths. We are a close family,simple, fun,successful, and "normal" lol. I moved 2000 miles from home at 18 and lived on the east cost until this April.

I moved back in April because my anxiety finally got the best of me. I left behind a fiancé who is going to grad school on the east coast. She is from my hometown and have know. Each other since high school. I was making our lives harder so I thought it best to get away for the summer and work for my fathers company

I think I have separation anxiety and act like a "stage 5 clinger" with her! I put way to much pressure on her and that is why I've joined the forum. I'm afraid of losing her so much so that I am going to end up pushing her away. In general I am a thinker trying to make things better from cars to anything you can think of. My mind is always at work. That turns out to be very awful when I start thinking about my GF. As I try to make her happy or help her when she dosent need help. I act like a parent to her often and always worried a out her safety

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Welcome to this wonderful forum! Keep a journal and give yourself time to figure out all the connections you've mentioned carefully. There are a lot of triggers that are all aiming in a single direction, so work your way back to the triggers one at a time. Once you figure out what is happening, you can change how you view the situation which will then change the situation as the usual response no longer fits.

Best wishes! You are not alone in this. Teach your mind how to relax by thinking of a calm, safe, and fun place to be by yourself.

[alankay]

Have you seen anyone about this? A therapist, etc. Alankay

[killthefear]

I am working to get into one today. I have not seen one about this. I went to one during the divorce 4 years ago for a few months. I found myself having anxiety waiting for replies on here even.