talk too much

[Lin]

I have found my anxiety/depression makes me talk too much, or texts to long or e-mail too long. Husband calls it my monologue but can't stop it. Anyone else do this and found solution?

[alankay]

Anyone besides your hubby share that opinion? Alankay

[sazco]

the calmer I am the less i say

before i took care of my anxiety i talked fast and a lot. i drove who i lived with nuts because i was so anxious about getting beatup in my own home. my sister told me i talked way too much couple months back but i didnt see it.

[Lin]

I think other people do notice. I have asked people to give me signals but I just continue. Think I am worse at home though.

[sazco]

yeah because at home youre more comfortable. you should just pay attention what you say and limit yourself. thats what i do.

[Lin]

Have been trying harder to stop talking too much. But still my texts and e-mails ramble on. I get stuck on a subject in my head and I have to get it out. Sometimes rather than going on too much, I keep repeating it - both drive my husband mad.

[omoplata]

If you talking too much is youre husbands biggest gripe with you then he should be thankful. Dont change the core of who you are for anyone. You will never be happy because its not you.

[Lin]

The trouble is he is right - I just ramble on and can't stop. Always been chatty, but this is irrational talking and I cant stop.

[sherlock]

Lin I know EXACTLY how you feel. I also know I talk too much. Everyone says the same. I come from a family that talks so much but married in to a family that doesn't. My in laws make fun of me and coworkers do also. My job requires me to interact with people all day. It's hard not to talk so much. So lately I have distanced myself from them both.

[Lin]

Good to know not only me. My husband doesn't help me at all. Lets me do it and then criticises. Talked about it today and hoping he will be different in future and help me, but not sure. Do your texts and e-mails go on too long too?

[sherlock]

Gosh yes they do go on. It's hard to just type a few lines in all my posts on here too. I have to delete half of what I wanna say because I feel they won't get read or ill ramble on. (There's also a few misspelled words I have to correct too. :D)

[omoplata]

The trouble is he is right - I just ramble on and can't stop. Always been chatty, but this is irrational talking and I cant stop.

Please stop selling yourself short. We all have our quirks. This is who you are.

[Lin]

I know just worrying I am losing friends because of it, at least friends for now, because they hate me rambling as much as my husband. I have asked colleague at work to stop me when doing it so don't look stupid at work.

[laurandisorder]

That's sad.

I have the same tendency. I fill any quiet space with chatter, whether relevant or not. I love words and language and I get super nervous about experiencing those 'awkward silences'.

It's sad that your husband says this to you. Maybe he talks too little - I know my significant other barely grunts!

At work, people tell me to shut the f*ck up (well a couple do) but in good humour. I don't mind it. It's an aspect of my nervousness that I like. You should embrace it too. Even if you only say stuff that really 'matters' 50% of the time, that's a lot of important stuff!

I mean as long as you aren't gossiping or spreading rumours, what's the harm?

[jspunky]

I know how you feel about driving everyone crazy,my family makes fun if how much I talk, and theyre pretty rude about it! & my texts and emails go on and on forever alot of the time. You're not alone.
:)

[Lin]

Thanks everyone I feel better about it now. Although today everything I said this morning was wrong or told to shut up- think he woke up in bad mood, but didn't help me. Got upset, but pleased instead of getting really upset, I did a meditation CD and calmed down enough to stop crying, didn't argue, and I felt I did well. I am sure he is allowed a bad day too!

[amberlove833]

Yes, I feel like I vent way too much to the point where I feel like people are getting annoyed. Your not alone.

[Lin]

Yes I get even worse as people get annoyed rather than shutting up, my mouth just goes on and on!

[amberlove833]

Yes I get even worse as people get annoyed rather than shutting up, my mouth just goes on and on!

Same here! :) Im glad were not alone.

[sazco]

Why do you think you talk so much? Are you afraid of losing peoples attention?