how do i do this

[anxiousmess]

I am getting my life on trackbit by bit.

I needt to know how to manage social anxiety.
I have let my guard down anf allowed people in...a little bit.

I just need to find the confidence to say what is really on my mind. More importantly...to stop doubting what is on my mind.

I find myself, when in social situations. That I agree to things I dont actually agree with.
I lose every ability to check my daughter infront of her friends parents. My sons I am fine with...my daughter is the oldest though.
I think it is because she is at the age I was when I was confiding in my friends parents over how bad my parents were.

I am no longer me infront of people.
It causes extreme anxiety at times.
Especially if I am with somebody I have finally grown comfortable around - to be with that friend, and one im not myself around.
Tortures me for days.
Making me think the comfortable friend thinks I am fake.

How do I just be me...Im tryig positive thinking. It gets me passed the barrier of not speaking at all. But that is all. Not sure how to move forward from here...

[Kaila Pareezer]

Hello (:

I have had problems with social anxiety since I was nine, and now I'm almost twenty one. It can be very overwhelming and can even make you slightly paranoid. It is definitely a difficult thing to face without some assistance. Have you tried counselling?

[anxiousmess]

Hiya.

Thanx for you reply.

I havent tried therapy for this specific problem. I feel as though I can do it by myself.
Well, with support of people around me.

I have found that being more honest to myself about my issues. I am more able to share it with others. Once I have done that I am somewhat alright when around them. Not 100% but at least 60-70.

I had a very, very insecure day when I posted this. I was full to the brim with anxiety and heightened emotion.

I am feeling alot more positive today. As you can probably see in my post.

I now know I need to continue doing what I am doing. My confidence will grow after each hurdle I stumble upon.

[abartlett331]

I found that I felt more nervous in certain places than others. For example if I was at the gym, especially late at night when hardly anyone was there, I would do pretty good. On the other hand, if I was say inside a crowded grocery store or work, I found it harder to control my anxiety. I basically gave myself 2 options because that's all I had. I would either face my fear and realize that I'm making the situation more serious than it really is, or I would continue to live the rest of my life in fear and anxiety.

So I did it, even though I still do get anxious from time to time. All I do now is face it head on and deal with it. Just thought I'd throw in my own person experiences into the conversation. But by the looks of things, it sounds like you're doing much better. Good for you.. :)