Scared to get a haircut

[jhunter89]

This is rather embarrassing but I haven't had a hair cut for about 12 years probably. My hair looks like shit, about 50% is split ends I reckon. I also rip some of it out when im bored or stressed. But I'm so ashamed to go to a hair dressers with such ugly hair and so scared that I will hate the haircut and want to hide in my room til it grows back, not to mention having to keep a conversation going for 20 mins or however long the haircut takes *shudder* it's a shame cos I think if I had a lovely haircut which I thought made me look good I might feel a little better about myself cos all is see when I look in the mirror is an ugly troll with dumb hair but no idea what hair would suit me anyway :-/

[abartlett331]

If you are embarrassed or just don't want to talk to a hair stylist while they're cutting your hair, I would suggest you purchase a home hair cut kit and learn to cut your hair yourself. I did this and I haven't been to the barber ever since. You pretty much have to make a choice, as you only have 2 options. You either go get your hair professionally done, or you can learn to cut it yourself. If you mess up, you can either leave it how it is, or shave your head and wear a hat until it grows back. This is how I approach cutting my hair. I tell myself that it's not the end of the world if I mess up and if I do, I can always shave my head or wait till it grows back. There really is no other solution to this. If you don't do either one, you will simply continue to have the hairstyle you have now. Hope this helps...

[abartlett331]

Oh sorry, I forgot to acknowledge whether you are male or female. You obviously won't want to shave your head if you're a female. Everything else I said still applies though..

[jamus75]

I know the anxiety u feel. Last time I went to get my haircut I was fine and wasn't even thinking about anxiety. Then she wrapped that gown around me and buttoned it up my neck. I immediately freaked out. Pulse racing, jitters and all. I knew I couldn't just get up and leave especially after she started. So I panicked for about 3 minutes and hid it. Then she started talking to me and I finally calmed down and forgot about it. Made it through and now I just cut my hair at home, but I'm a guy so it don't matter.

[jhunter89]

Haha I am a girl so shaving my head is a big no no!

[janey]

Hi there,

I understand the anxiety about it. I don't like being chatty with hair barbers either. If you're not very chatty to them, they tend to not be chatty with you. It's as simple as that.
You also have to think to yourself: Hey, I already don't like my hair so even if my hair cut isn't to my liking, it's still better than having 50% split ends. You don't have to get anything fancy or extreme, all you have to say is that you would like ____ inches off and that's it. They might ask you where you are from or if you go to school, but don't feel obligated to tell your life story. They ask questions just to try to make you feel comfortable, but if you don't say much, they'll shut up. To make it easier on them, show up with wet hair that is already washed and combed out. That way they won't have to do it and there's less time spent there. It could take less than 10 minutes if you say you want "4 inches off, just simple cut and no style."

Also, if you have someone in your home that can cut a straight line, it would be very simple for them to do it. My mom cuts my hair and I have very long hair. She doesn't have any experience. All I do is wash my hair and condition it, getting all the knots out. I comb it and then while it's still wet, my mom cuts a straight line. It looks just fine and gets the split ends off.

[becki]

I was too but not at your extreme but was heading there if I didn't get help from meds and CBT


I've gotten 2 haircuts alone since starting therapy in dec my last one was a wash cut and dry!! Besides the price I loved being pampered. Bring someone with you the first few times you go. I had such confidence afterward but it takes work.

Good luck!

[OvercomeIt]

Yea this can be traumatizing definitely seek some help...but try to barrel through your condition little by little.