PanicAttacker
02-11-2013, 01:27 PM
For the past few months I've been struggling with anxiety, and am wondering if theres anything I could do.
Before last year I didn't want to go out with girls. The reason why was because I didn't have my drivers liscense, and thought it would be embarassing to have parents drive me on dates. Used to my heart would pound like a jackhammer when I wanted to talk to one, but now I'm able to flirt without getting nervous and when asking one out I get a little nervous but not to the point it's overwhelming.
Back around fall I asked this beautiful girl out and felt great about, until I sat down to eat. I had a really bad panic attack, and it wouldn't go away for hours. Part of me thinks maybe the reason why was because I was unsure about whether me and this girl would hit it off. I remember asking out this girl I was really in love with being barely nervous at all, and I guess it was because I was sure that things would have worked. I know the worst possible outcome would be me and a girl never going out again, or me and her breaking up after awhile. But yet I still catch myself getting really nervous like this.
After that I started struggling with panic attacks, mostly when trying to eat in public. It happened a few times, and I think I got them under control for the most part. But I still think i'll suffer one if I ask out a girl and get her number. I remember about a month ago I called a resturant that this cutie that was working at so I could ask her out. I asked to speak with her, and the person I talked to said to call back later when shes on break. I planned on calling back but ended up getting so nervous that I was kneeling on the ground swareing to myself that I won't call back because my nervousness was so overwhelming. It seems like if I make an obligation involving a girl, I get really nervous like this. I even had a dream recently where I was feeling anxiety involving girls. I got a girls number from a friend, and started sending texts to her. Then I started feeling anxious, and when I woke up I felt the same.
In my lifetime I've never had a girlfriend. The closest thing I have to one is just a few girls I know from various places that I flirt with that flirt back when I see them. On Saturday I was eating some chips in the parking lot of a store, and was about to get out. Before doing so a car drove past, and the girl in the passenger seat looked almost identical to one of the girls I flirt with often. I don't think it was her, but after seeing that I had a mild panic attack that lasted about thirty seconds.
Could the root of this be me never getting a girlfriend when I was younger? I know that little kids usually get into several casual releationships that only last a few days if even that. Despite liking a few girls, and a few girls liking me I never did, could that be the reason behind this? I really don't want to see a shrink about this, and hope to keep this secret from family/friends. Is there any way to overcome this? Please help.
Before last year I didn't want to go out with girls. The reason why was because I didn't have my drivers liscense, and thought it would be embarassing to have parents drive me on dates. Used to my heart would pound like a jackhammer when I wanted to talk to one, but now I'm able to flirt without getting nervous and when asking one out I get a little nervous but not to the point it's overwhelming.
Back around fall I asked this beautiful girl out and felt great about, until I sat down to eat. I had a really bad panic attack, and it wouldn't go away for hours. Part of me thinks maybe the reason why was because I was unsure about whether me and this girl would hit it off. I remember asking out this girl I was really in love with being barely nervous at all, and I guess it was because I was sure that things would have worked. I know the worst possible outcome would be me and a girl never going out again, or me and her breaking up after awhile. But yet I still catch myself getting really nervous like this.
After that I started struggling with panic attacks, mostly when trying to eat in public. It happened a few times, and I think I got them under control for the most part. But I still think i'll suffer one if I ask out a girl and get her number. I remember about a month ago I called a resturant that this cutie that was working at so I could ask her out. I asked to speak with her, and the person I talked to said to call back later when shes on break. I planned on calling back but ended up getting so nervous that I was kneeling on the ground swareing to myself that I won't call back because my nervousness was so overwhelming. It seems like if I make an obligation involving a girl, I get really nervous like this. I even had a dream recently where I was feeling anxiety involving girls. I got a girls number from a friend, and started sending texts to her. Then I started feeling anxious, and when I woke up I felt the same.
In my lifetime I've never had a girlfriend. The closest thing I have to one is just a few girls I know from various places that I flirt with that flirt back when I see them. On Saturday I was eating some chips in the parking lot of a store, and was about to get out. Before doing so a car drove past, and the girl in the passenger seat looked almost identical to one of the girls I flirt with often. I don't think it was her, but after seeing that I had a mild panic attack that lasted about thirty seconds.
Could the root of this be me never getting a girlfriend when I was younger? I know that little kids usually get into several casual releationships that only last a few days if even that. Despite liking a few girls, and a few girls liking me I never did, could that be the reason behind this? I really don't want to see a shrink about this, and hope to keep this secret from family/friends. Is there any way to overcome this? Please help.