Having NO Support

[hunn3yy]

Hello, I am a 21 year old female. Have recently come out of the hopsital for a suicide attempt during the christmas break. During that stay i was able to grow and meet other individuals who were like me. I enjoyed my stay and knew it was to short in regards to my health. However, my family came and stated that they would give me 100% support including listening when im having anxiety and helping me do little tasks such as breathing or something simple such as hugging me and letting me know that everything will be alright.

well its been two weeks out of the hospital and the second i got home, the support was gone. They continued to act as though i have no depression, anxiety, and critical voice i hear inside my head. they act as though my panic attacks are ways of getting attention which i dont understand how someone could possibly do such a thing. my question is is there anyone else out there facing the same difficulties of having no support as in no friends or family? how do you deal with it? who do you rely on? where do you get your strength from?

Thanks in advance!

[LeslieJoy]

I am so sorry that you are getting no support. I think that unless you are someone that gets anxiety, panic, depression, they just don't understand it and as you said sometimes you are thought to get attention.

You are trying to get attention for a real problem. Is there a place you could go like the hospital you were at? To be with people who understand.

[hunn3yy]

I am so sorry that you are getting no support. I think that unless you are someone that gets anxiety, panic, depression, they just don't understand it and as you said sometimes you are thought to get attention.

You are trying to get attention for a real problem. Is there a place you could go like the hospital you were at? To be with people who understand.

hey thanks for the reply. the hospital gave me a case worker and a phyciatrist (bad spelling) but they are not able to be here daily. I have panic attacks every evenning.

[LeslieJoy]

I am home most evenings. Are you on iPod, iPad? You could message me at nights if you need to.

[mrsmischief]

Hello, I am a 21 year old female. Have recently come out of the hopsital for a suicide attempt during the christmas break. During that stay i was able to grow and meet other individuals who were like me. I enjoyed my stay and knew it was to short in regards to my health. However, my family came and stated that they would give me 100% support including listening when im having anxiety and helping me do little tasks such as breathing or something simple such as hugging me and letting me know that everything will be alright.

well its been two weeks out of the hospital and the second i got home, the support was gone. They continued to act as though i have no depression, anxiety, and critical voice i hear inside my head. they act as though my panic attacks are ways of getting attention which i dont understand how someone could possibly do such a thing. my question is is there anyone else out there facing the same difficulties of having no support as in no friends or family? how do you deal with it? who do you rely on? where do you get your strength from?

Thanks in advance!

This forum has been pretty reassuring for me. And if you have an iphone or ipad you could download the Whisper app. Thats also amazing for support.

[hunn3yy]

Yes I do have this on my iPod so I'm able to come here all the time

[justconfused]

This forum has been pretty reassuring for me. And if you have an iphone or ipad you could download the Whisper app. Thats also amazing for support.

I have an iphone and hear so much about this whisper app. Which one is it specifically? I search for it, but there are alot of apps called that.

[mrsmischief]

I have an iphone and hear so much about this whisper app. Which one is it specifically? I search for it, but there are alot of apps called that.

Its the purple one with the girl silhouette. Kinda looks like shes praying.

[hunn3yy]

What's the app for

[sandyrdh1]

Its the purple one with the girl silhouette. Kinda looks like shes praying.

Is it the app that has all the posts with pictures.?

[mrsmischief]

Is it the app that has all the posts with pictures.?

Yes. You post pictures with your fears, anxieties, hopes. And its just a big support group

[sandyrdh1]

Yes. You post pictures with your fears, anxieties, hopes. And its just a big support group

Oh. I downloaded it but had no idea how it worked. I saw pics but did not know if you could actually comment an talk to people. And I did not know how you go about adding pics. When someone adds a pic do you just find one that relates to it and post it?

[mrsmischief]

Oh. I downloaded it but had no idea how it worked. I saw pics but did not know if you could actually comment an talk to people. And I did not know how you go about adding pics. When someone adds a pic do you just find one that relates to it and post it?

You make them. The plus button will let you submit or reply to a post. Choose a photo from your gallery or the internet, add your message and then post! Theres a messaging feature for people who bought the app for private conversations. Its pretty cool

[sandyrdh1]

You make them. The plus button will let you submit or reply to a post. Choose a photo from your gallery or the internet, add your message and then post! Theres a messaging feature for people who bought the app for private conversations. Its pretty cool

I will have to re try that.:) I just got the free version before. By posting pics how does that help you and your anxiety

[mrsmischief]

Its not about the pics its about the message you add. You share your anxieties and people reply with support

[angeleyes01]

Tell me about it my dad had a stroke about 5 yrs ago was told don't worry we will help you. My mum had a stroke in November don't worry we will help you :( who has helped no-one. Suffer depression,anxiety/panic and acrophobia and I have to force myself to take my mum shopping

[angeleyes01]

It pisses me off cause I have 1 bro and 3 sisters and they are too busy or just don't care

[n1ck13]

No support seems to feel like the story of our lives...I just cry, honestly! What else can you do :/ all the professional help can't comfort you when you need it in reality and receiving no support just makes everything harder to deal with, you feel more depressed and over think things! It's already been mentioned but I think it's true, people who don't suffer these things can't truly understand and just don't get it...

[angeleyes01]

Sorry if I hijacked your post :( no support here either. I was going to say hope you feel better soon and I do but family hurts more than anyone else

[hunn3yy]

You are so right about family hurting more than anyone else because above all they are supposed to be there for you.

[LeslieJoy]

I totally understand what you all mean when it comes to family and other people that do not SUFFER with anxiety, panic, fear, depression, etc., not understanding what it is like to have to deal with this. I have a sister that has dealt with some of this before, she understands but she lives 3 hours away.
This forum has helped me by being able to talk with people who dealing with the same things. I hope I can be there for any of you also.

[anxiousweirdo]

I'm quite lucky my boyfriend is really good at supporting me, my mum is 2 but I know this is silly but my dogs cheer me up aswell

[hunn3yy]

yah my dog totally seems to understand when im down and he will give kisses. wish other humans would understand it. Like how do people who are older manage to maintain a steady job im having it just hard going to classes right now.

[anxiousweirdo]

I think people just manage to live with it when tbeir older Or they fight it

[a l i c i a]

Hello, I am a 21 year old female. Have recently come out of the hopsital for a suicide attempt during the christmas break. During that stay i was able to grow and meet other individuals who were like me. I enjoyed my stay and knew it was to short in regards to my health. However, my family came and stated that they would give me 100% support including listening when im having anxiety and helping me do little tasks such as breathing or something simple such as hugging me and letting me know that everything will be alright.

well its been two weeks out of the hospital and the second i got home, the support was gone. They continued to act as though i have no depression, anxiety, and critical voice i hear inside my head. they act as though my panic attacks are ways of getting attention which i dont understand how someone could possibly do such a thing. my question is is there anyone else out there facing the same difficulties of having no support as in no friends or family? how do you deal with it? who do you rely on? where do you get your strength from?

Thanks in advance!

Your family sounds a lot like mine. They act like I can just stop freaking out and control my panic and anxiety. My fiancé isn't the best with it either. He acts like I am this way just to piss him off or something. I really don't have anyone but my psychologist. No one else understands what it's like. I've had panic disorder and anxiety for 18 years and you would think I would be able to give better advice but I can't. I have two little boys so I try to stay strong for them but its hard. Maybe you should start seeing someone. It's helped me a lot. I see her every week cause I'm far from where I want to be. I truly hope it gets better for you. I know how hard it can be.

[anxiousweirdo]

It a horrible thing when people don't understand, it's even worse when people think you can turn it off and in when you please! So not the case! My dad is like that he thinks he can say dont panic and it will work! But clearly not! I wouldn't wish anyone to have anxiety but sometimes people should try and understand a bit more

[LeslieJoy]

You are so right! My husband supports me but does not understand why I get so anxious. It is good we have places like this where we can talk to people who understand.

[anxiousweirdo]

It really is good that we have this forum where people are always there for support, if u ever need a chat or anything just pm me

[hunn3yy]

Thanks anxiouswierdo

[mrsmischief]

It a horrible thing when people don't understand, it's even worse when people think you can turn it off and in when you please! So not the case! My dad is like that he thinks he can say dont panic and it will work! But clearly not! I wouldn't wish anyone to have anxiety but sometimes people should try and understand a bit more

I often have to explain that its a problem with my nervous system. Its not a phobia or childhood trauma. Its an uncontrollable physical problem. Ive received a little more support since explaining it that way. But no one can understand unless they've gone through it. I was diagnosed with chronic anxiety. Therapy cant fix me. Medication can control it. Im scared that someday i will have a real heart attack and ill sit through it thinking its another panic attack

[anxiousweirdo]

I know what you mean,no one can understand unless they have been through it! It's horrible! Don't worry about that! U would defo know if it was a heart attack

[johnmawson]

I've gone through the same thing you have.. It IS horrible, I know.
I was put into a mental health facility when I was 14
and attempted suicide last year.
I am depression and anxiety free now (that's all on my website how I did it, and how others can too) just FYI...

But my advice to you would be this.
Inform them!
They may not know exactly how to deal with you right now. I'm sure they only have the best intentions for you.. But put yourself in their shoes; and you may discover how hard it is to understand, and know how to deal with.
The more they know your needs and wants, the more able they are to compensate you for that.

I know my whole life I've never had support, but that's because nobody truly knew how to give me support. It did feel like they didn't care about me at all, but once I overcame my depression and took a view at it from their shoes, i noticed just how hard it is to deal with us, when they haven't gone through it themselves.

Until you make clear to them what you need and want them to do, they will never know. They can't read your mind...

Maybe have them set a schedule to set aside 15 minutes or so each day to work with you on some techniques?
There is a bunch of things I've posted on my website/blog/book that are group/family exercises. I'm sure you'll benefit from checking them out.
**It's all free by the way, i'm not interested in making money... Only helping people (I have my own business, I make my money through that irrespective of this book/blog/website)

Contact me if you'd like to talk! I'm more than happy to help

[Amr]

Oh yes Tell me about it !!! Family will never ever support you i Have Anxiety For almost 10 months and i swear no one has ever supported me . Neither Friends or Family They just call me Attention Seeker or am doing this not to Study or work
My Family Have been making fun of me and Calling me Names I Hear them Talking behind my Back it Hurts They even Call Me crazy !!
When i Visited a Psychiatric Doctor I Had to go Without their Knowledge. They even say am their Main Cause of sadness !!!!!
am just so pissed off I Thought They were the first people to Help. am just so effin Pissed offfff
Mainly i seek Help and Strength From Praying, Exercising , Hitting The Gym and Listening to music and sometimes this forum. Nothin Else has Helped Neither did pills Family or friend.
am Still struggling But still at least am trying.
We all here to help each other So Good Luck

[hunn3yy]

Thank you so much for the advice. Just an update my father and mother have been more supportive in regards to my health. They are helping me in finding counseling as well as helping me keep busy instead of sitting at home thinking and stressing. Thank you all for the advice :)

[johnmawson]

I'm so glad :)
My best wishes to you and your family.
Stay strong, you can beat this!

[BrokenHalo7]

If you like you can email me or Message me. I'm 26 and I suffer from depression and I have okay nights. My days are the worse at times. I also decided to keep a live diary on this site. I'm going to tell it all honey! lol. Let me know. :)