Worry

[Hope43]

Hi! I've being here for a little and it had help me to understand that I'm not alone. I have read so many books about depression and anxiety that helped me to understand them better. I had become so aware of these illnesses to the point that I'm always searching for more info. I recently read about borderline personality disorder and I saw that some of the symptoms may fit me. Like I have some traits and that scare the hell out of me. I already have issues with relationships in general. And it saddens me that I will spend the rest of my life alone because of these illnesses. Can someone tell me more about borderline personality disorder and how had impacted ones life?

[alankay]

We all have some of that. All of us humans. Depends on the type but a rigid thought structure not allowing for others feeling /thoughts to be considered valued or valid is the hallmark of one of the disorders. But we all have that to a point. Just some traits are in no way a Personality Disorder. But lots of worring about it is anxiety. I've been there too until I accepted that anxiety and nothing more was my problem. Alankay

[SunnieDebris]

Hope,

Welcome! I'm glad you found us! I happen to have Borderline Personality Disorder, as does my wife. Just like Alan said, we all have some traits of all kinds of disorders, so it's important to not self-diagnose (I also think I have ADHD, but I have not been diagnosed yet), or we could spend all day finding syndromes with similar symptoms. Check with your therapist and let her know what your concerns are, but don't dwell on it. And don't worry that if you have it, it makes you a freak. Borderlines get a lot of bad press, much like schizophrenics, but most of it happens in people who are undiagnosed, untreated, and often making things worse with self medication of some kind. You're a perfectly normal person with anxiety and depression issues. Try to be good to yourself. Be kind with yourself. Don't judge yourself to be an outcast. Hang in there! You're worth it!