Friendless, judged, depresses and lonely

[babygirl]

Hi all

I'm new here and I need to let so much out and have nobody to talk too.

Why is it hard to find a friend to talk to without being judge????

Never knew life will be this hard

[mary66]

Have you tried Therapy as well as posting your thoughts on here? Remember one thing babygirl, you are the only one who should judged yourself. Don't be so hard on yourself. Don't worry about what others think of you. Healing starts with in yourself. I use to be so worried about what others thought and said about me, still do at time and working on it. Its time to put yourself first and be kind to you and love yourself first. I hope this helps.

[mw0929]

People are quick to judge what they don't understand. Fortunately (or unfortunately) we all understand here so feel free to express how you feel.

[babygirl]

Thanks heaps. I can't afford therapy at the moment and I have no friends to turn too. I hope being on here can help me and I won't be judged.

I'm married with 3 children.

I have had issues with my in laws and it kills me cause I try so hard to fit in and plz them. They treated me like there daughter which I loved so so much and it felt the best cause I never got that when I was young with my family than trouble started and they accused me of stealing which i never did. I respected them so much and never would take advantage of them and it hurts me so much for them to think that and now they don't talk me. It kills me so much.

Nearly a year ago I started chatting to a guy on websites I never met or anything but I got caught so my husband told his parents, brother and friends which is why I have nobody. One close friend i thought i had took sides instead. We went to therapy and we are still together

He has forgiven me but trusting me will take time which I understand. It brought us closer

It's hurting me so much now that he still can't trust. I have proved it so much and explained to him that I'm not that stupid to do it again but I think that's what is effecting us getting closer

He says he wants to put it all behind us and start fresh but he can't

Than for the past 3 weeks my once close friend has started messaging me again and she is my daughters godmother. So we started talking and she came to give my daughter her Xmas present and she talked to me etc. than that night she messaged my husband saying it was great seeing my daughter and sent him a merry Xmas. I now feel used. I think she only started talking to me just to see my girl. She never messaged ms since

My husband doesn't understand. Every time I try and talk to him, he just thinks I'm a hard headed person and should get over things

Am I that bad 😒😒😒😒

[Cloudwife]

babygirl, I'm so sorry you feel that way. I've been trying to fit in with my family for a long time. I can't seem to get it right. I'm new here but everyone seems really awesome. I'm sure you can find a friend(:

I've been told to get over it my whole short life. Even as a little girl I wasn't happy enough, I didn't have enough friends, I wasn't fun enough.... That's how my family saw it. And they never stopped telling me about it ether. I was always too scared (anxiety) and didn't care for fun (depression). I wasn't one to complain I just didn't know how to be happy. I'm still learning. I've been outcast-ed by everyone I try to get close to because I don't know how to be happy or get along in this world. You're not alone even though we're in different situations. Sadly people find it hard to understand. I guess it's just like how I can understand happiness or even just being content. I really hope you find something good here. Stay strong.

[babygirl]

Thanks cloudwife I hope to find friends and support too

[mktaphr]

I recently read a book that helped me a lot with my depression. I think the main point of it was really helpful. That the sufferer should first and foremost seek help and then take an active approach to make sure that they are healing along with finding a partner to help them on their journey. Also, it kind of opened my eyes to the different foods that can really worsen people's depression because of the different chemicals in the foods and how they can affect you. I know it doesn't seem like it but what I've discovered is that the little things all add up and can have a big impact on the way you feel. Feel better! The name of the book was 'you can cure your depression' by the way.

[babygirl]

Thanks for that I shall look into but I have also just purchased a book that has been recommended by doctors etc called The Happiness Trap

[1Goofy1]

I have been married 20 years and my marriage started off by my mother in law leaving the room and slamming her door when we told her we were getting married...LOL
I tried to make peace with her so many times and she even lived with us for the first 9 years till I just said no more. Told my husband one of us was moving..haha.
I love and respect her but it did not go both ways and as soon as I got it in my head that I did what I could and that it was her problem not mine I felt much better about it.
My father in law also was concerned about his son marrying me but only because from our first date to married was only 6 months. Once he got to know me he was awesome, no wonder he divorced the mother, she is just the most negative person. She is know in a home with dementia and has forgotten many things but not her dislike for me...lol.
Just be yourself and worry about making you happy. As long as you are doing nothing wrong and your conscience is clear, let it go.

[babygirl]

Thanks for sharing your story


I have to somehow start looking after me and when I hear things to just let it go which I can't

Everytime he comes and tells me things about his family I start getting anxiety attacks which I need to control