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darkenedshadow
12-26-2012, 12:04 AM
Hi!

My name is Nathan :)

I am new to this forum and need some help. The reason I am turning to this forum right now is because I don't have any means to pay for any professional help at the moment, so any tips would be nice.

To give you a quick breakdown: I normally suffer from anxiety and depression, a mixture of both.

In the mornings, I find it hard for myself to get out of bed. I feel no motivation to do any work and I just feel exhausted and want to continue lying in bed. Once I get up I have to rush to work or rush to get my daily chores done. In the afternoon at work I am mostly focused on work and I do not have as much anxiety during the day, sometimes I do have anxiety at work but I believe it is just co-related to lack of sleep. Once I get home, I go on my bed and browse the internet for hours and end up not doing anything productive. I get depressed and anxious over not doing everything that I actually want to do in my spare time. It's the worst when I'm by myself (I live alone) and there is nothing pushing me to do anything. So I just sit down and do nothing but worry every aspect of my life. Then once it gets time to fall asleep I get very tense and I can feel my teeth cringing on each other and my muscles tighten up because I know I m going to go through the same thing the next day.

It is like I am not allowing myself to get into a regular routine and regular sleeping pattern. When I get tired at night I get anxious and cant fall asleep. I dont remember the last time I had 3 nights in a row of regular sleep.

I do believe that I found the cause to my dilemma, I have tried to resolve the issue in the past but after a couple attempts it is really discouraging. It's hard to try and be happy after years of depression and anxiety. Any help with tips would be very appreciated :)

sandyrdh1
12-26-2012, 11:20 AM
You sound like me. Lol. I am the same way but I do make myself get up and do something. If I am at work my mind is focused on work and I may get a bit anxious but not bad. When I get home I seem to focus on the rising around I have to do the next day etc. I have a 4 yr old so that keeps be busy but somedays I don't want to move but I make myself get up and clean or play with the baby. I have to or I will stress more. But when it's time for bed and I am lying there I can feel my muscles tighten up and my mind starts going and then my skipped heart beats start and then boom! It takes me hours to fall asleep. So I know where your coming from. It's all anxiety.

darkenedshadow
12-26-2012, 06:29 PM
Thanks for the reply :) I'm glad to hear I am not the only one that suffers from this anxiety. It seems to come and go with me sometimes. If I keep myself busy, my anxiety seems to lower. Today was actually an alright day. I went boxing day shopping (I live in Canada - equivalent to black friday in the US) and I found some good deals :) I was proud of myself to get all the things done that I wanted to do. But as I settle in tonight I have to control my anxiety again before it gets to me...

SunnieDebris
12-26-2012, 06:39 PM
Hi, Nathan, and welcome! I'm glad to hear that you had a good day! Are you able to see a medical doctor at all? I'm just wondering if some medical intervention is possible for you. Valerian root and melatonin are both good natural sleep aides. Benadryl also has the same effect. Are you able to exercise before bed?

darkenedshadow
12-26-2012, 07:25 PM
Normally, I would have access to a doctor, but now I have moved provinces and need a new health card which will take three months to get. I dont exercise before bed because I've always heard that it makes you energized and unable to sleep :S

SunnieDebris
12-26-2012, 08:36 PM
Normally, I would have access to a doctor, but now I have moved provinces and need a new health card which will take three months to get. I dont exercise before bed because I've always heard that it makes you energized and unable to sleep :S

Nathan,

Yes, sometimes exercising does wake you up, but since you have no access to healthcare right now, I'm trying to think of things that you might want to try, like the OTC supplements and medications. Have you tried meditation or visualization?

Sunnie