onedayatatime
12-16-2012, 07:59 PM
Two years ago I ended a 3 year relationship with a guy whom I dated in college. There were so many variables to its ending but the ultimate was that he cheated on me on 2 separate occasions.. that I know of. His ex-girlfriend stalked me on myspace and facebook and posted things saying i was anorexic and too skinny. My mom is 5'6 and 120. My sister is 5'8 and 115 and I am 5'8 and 110. My dad is 5'10" and 160/170.
Ever since then, I felt low self-worth and became very insecure. I went to counseling and tried dating months after but it failed miserably.
7 months ago I met a wonderful man. He's patient, kind, and everything I've set my standards to. The only issue is that he dated a girl 4 years ago. They dated for 8 months and they work together. All my brain keeps saying is.. run. Run and don't get hurt.
The thing is, I'm not threatened by her. I'm threatened at the possibility of cheating. He's a stand up guy. He's given me everything I've wanted. He's taken me everywhere I've wanted to go. But our arguments are horrible because of my insecurity. I should trust him, but the last time I trusted someone, I got burned at the stake. Its been 2 years and my ex has never crossed my mind. I love this man, but I don't want to lose him.
Someone please help with suggestions. I've tried a mantra, meditation, and self-talk. I'm not throwing this relationship away because of what some bullshit asshat did to me.
Lots of love to everyone,
Marni.
Ever since then, I felt low self-worth and became very insecure. I went to counseling and tried dating months after but it failed miserably.
7 months ago I met a wonderful man. He's patient, kind, and everything I've set my standards to. The only issue is that he dated a girl 4 years ago. They dated for 8 months and they work together. All my brain keeps saying is.. run. Run and don't get hurt.
The thing is, I'm not threatened by her. I'm threatened at the possibility of cheating. He's a stand up guy. He's given me everything I've wanted. He's taken me everywhere I've wanted to go. But our arguments are horrible because of my insecurity. I should trust him, but the last time I trusted someone, I got burned at the stake. Its been 2 years and my ex has never crossed my mind. I love this man, but I don't want to lose him.
Someone please help with suggestions. I've tried a mantra, meditation, and self-talk. I'm not throwing this relationship away because of what some bullshit asshat did to me.
Lots of love to everyone,
Marni.