Help guys

[josie359]

I don't know what to do about my panic attacks

[alankay]

Have you been to a doc or therapist yet? Alankay

[josie359]

Have you been to a doc or therapist yet? Alankay

No I haven't even told my mum well I have gone to the doc on my own and they said I have severe panic disorder and panic attacks

[josie359]

No I haven't even told my mum well I have gone to the doc on my own and they said I have severe panic disorder and panic attacks

But I live with my mum and am only thirteen so I don't know what to do

[star1234]

The first step is to speak to your mom about it. Im sure your mother would like to know. I'm a mom of two teenage kids and I would want to help them.

[josie359]

Thanks I find it awkward to tell her things in front of her so I might write her a letter and leave it by her bed but I had a panic attack at my friends house and now I am scared ill get another if I go back but I don't want to seem rude what do I do?!!!

[SunnieDebris]

Josie,

Do you have any updates for us? How are you doing?

Sunnie

[josie359]

Had two panic attacks today feeling more anxious than ever about school on Monday what if I have one there everyone at school keeps wondering y I'm upset but the reason is feel abandoned by my mum and my dad is not there I loved my dad so much and when I c other people with their dad it makes me want to cry I wish I had normal life my panic attacks are getting more frequent and I tried to tell my mum but she completely ignored me and I wrote to her but the next day I found it screwed up in the bin it's like she doesn't care it's like when I had ippendisitus and she didn't believe me but the next day I had to e taken in to hostpital from school as I collapsed but she just ignores me. U really help me sunnie tho it's nice to know there is somebody there who cares about how I am doing and what I am going thro

[josie359]

﹤(•~•)> I want a hug...

[SunnieDebris]

Josie,

What happened to your dad? Do you have extended family you can talk to, like an aunt or grandmother? I'm sorry you are having such a hard time, and that your mother is being very unsupportive. It's possible that she blames herself for your unhappiness and is unsure how to help you, so it is easier to get angry with you than it is to roll up her sleeves, examine her own life, and take some action to help you. I'm not excusing her behavior, I'm just trying to provide some possible context for her actions.

My wife and I were watching an old episode of Hoarders, and there was a woman who got pregnant at age 14. Her mother basically abandoned her and refused to help raise her after that. She then became a hoarder. I said, "Gee, I guess if you abandon your child because she got pregnant, bad things might happen". And my wife said, "When you abandon your kid--bad things might happen." I'm sorry you feel abandoned by both of your parents right now. We're here to do what we can for you.

Are you able to see your doctor on your own? Most states have clauses in medical confidentiality laws that provide for minors ages 12 and up can receive medical treatment without their parents knowledge or consent.

Sunnie

[josie359]

My dad is gone he left and I have very few memory's of him my favourite is me and my dad were sitting on the sofa watching west side story and my brother sister and mum went to the kitchen because they got bored and me and my dad were cuddled up on the sofa together and we both cried at the end I loved my dad so much and I even used to think as myself as daddy's girl but now it's all gone I run away from my problems with him and I find it emotionally painful to try and sort out things with him I see him every other Saturday and I go to his house my brother and sister go out with him and get left on my room I feel like her doesn't love me but it is really nice to have someone here for me and someone who has anxiety problems too but I am so sad I want to be happy and stop my panic attacks :(

[SunnieDebris]

Josie,

I'm so sorry that you are so unhappy right now. There is no quick fix to anxiety problems, but my best recommendation is Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). If you Google DBT, you can find out more information without having to spend any money. There are numerous skills you can learn in areas like Distress Tolerance, Emotional Regulation, and Interpersonal Effectiveness. It's a lot of work, but if you try to use 1-2 skills per day, you can find what works for you and master it. You will probably need to journal and do other kinds of homework, but I think you can find some good answers.

Let me know what you find, and let's talk more about it.

Sunnie

[josie359]

I will google that today u r so helpful with all ur suggestions I really feel like someone cares I will google it and look into it. DBT sounds like good therapy I've never heard of it but it sound beneficial . Thankyou

[josie359]

Just some more info: I am white but I am a Buddhist nobody in my family has been a Buddhist but I am ( just for ur info)

[SunnieDebris]

My wife is Buddhist, as well!

Sunnie

[josie359]

Wow that's so cool we have so much in common i love this website it feels like one big family

[stjlynn]

No one has replied to me!! :(

[SunnieDebris]

Josie, how have you been doing?

Sunnie

[Straightahead]

Does the buddhist way of life help with her anxiety?

[josie359]

Hey sunnie

If anything way worse my i confided in my friend and she doesn't belive me she thinks I want attention but it is true I am not lying and I feeling like I want to cry lately all the time and everything's getting me down my panic attacks are getting worse I'm just at a complete low really

Josie

Straightahead

It can be beneficial it can be really relaxing (meditating and stuff)

Josie

[onedayatatime]

Hi Josie,

I also suffer from panic attacks. Sometimes they are so extreme that I get clammy and extremely hot. Ive tried countless times not to run away, but in social situations, sometimes I have no other choice. I'm still trying to find my own peace. I'm new to this forum and hope to find friendship and support.

Marni.

[SunnieDebris]

Does the buddhist way of life help with her anxiety?

The changing she used to do can help reduce the anxiety, but she gets overwhelmed and scared just like the rest of us.

Sunnie

[SunnieDebris]

Hi Josie,

I also suffer from panic attacks. Sometimes they are so extreme that I get clammy and extremely hot. Ive tried countless times not to run away, but in social situations, sometimes I have no other choice. I'm still trying to find my own peace. I'm new to this forum and hope to find friendship and support.

Marni.

Marni,

Hello, and welcome! How long have you had problems with anxiety, and what has worked or not worked for you?

Sunnie