Fake friends and hurt feelings

[withacuppoftea]

I've been really depressed since Friday. So my friend and I were walking to th library. I was getting picked p there. And her parents were there to b her a bus pass, since she rides the bus to school and back. So we crossed the street and we saw her dad and sister. Then we continued walking. It was sort of awkward. Suddenly her sister giggled a bit and asked, are you (my name)? I said yes. "My sister hates you and she thinks you're ugly. She's only friendly to you because you're also friends with (one of my best friend name)." she said. I didn't know what to say and I stared at her with a little surprise and a little shocked but mostly scared. I also been very scared of people thinking about my appearance and also I've been having troubles with friend who didn't want to hang out with me anymore after each grade in elementary. When I did have a trustful friend and a best friend, they would moved to a different city. the transfer in fifth grade and sixth grade, I had a friend who was always playing with me and was my best friend. But after my vacation, she lifted me for her other friends. They practically shunned me when I said hi and they ignored me on the first day. Then, I made my BFF inn that year but she moved away to the south of California. After that I found some pretty awesome ass friends and they stuck with me. They even introduced new friends to the "lunch table". One of those friend is the th girl's sister. I knew she didn't like me from the start but she got friendlier and started to talk to me more. But after that Friday, I've been sobbing my ass off while curling up in my bed when my parents and brother were asleep. I felt really hurt and I don't know what to do.anyone help me please?

[anunnaki]

I really feel for you, I had some of the same situations. But instead I am a guy. Some people call me weird but I really don't care a whole lot. I tell them something then they shut up. I think people do this to you because you are vulnerable. You have to understand that humans are animals and they go for the vulnerable people to make fun of. You really have to ignore them. If you walk away and never go back to them they probably won't waste their time finding you. There are a lot of friends you could have, you just need to look for them in the places you would go :)

[withacuppoftea]

Thank you x3 I tried finding help but people say they didn't know what to do. I and you a lot :3 I shall do so as you say.

[trinidiva]

Hold your head high and try to find some new friends. You really do not need fake people in your life. Are you involved in any sports or clubs at school? If not, maybe you should find one that you like and join. You will make some friends that way and they will share your same interests.

[inzombiac]

I've been really depressed since Friday. So my friend and I were walking to th library. I was getting picked p there. And her parents were there to b her a bus pass, since she rides the bus to school and back. So we crossed the street and we saw her dad and sister. Then we continued walking. It was sort of awkward. Suddenly her sister giggled a bit and asked, are you (my name)? I said yes. "My sister hates you and she thinks you're ugly. She's only friendly to you because you're also friends with (one of my best friend name)." she said. I didn't know what to say and I stared at her with a little surprise and a little shocked but mostly scared. I also been very scared of people thinking about my appearance and also I've been having troubles with friend who didn't want to hang out with me anymore after each grade in elementary. When I did have a trustful friend and a best friend, they would moved to a different city. the transfer in fifth grade and sixth grade, I had a friend who was always playing with me and was my best friend. But after my vacation, she lifted me for her other friends. They practically shunned me when I said hi and they ignored me on the first day. Then, I made my BFF inn that year but she moved away to the south of California. After that I found some pretty awesome ass friends and they stuck with me. They even introduced new friends to the "lunch table". One of those friend is the th girl's sister. I knew she didn't like me from the start but she got friendlier and started to talk to me more. But after that Friday, I've been sobbing my ass off while curling up in my bed when my parents and brother were asleep. I felt really hurt and I don't know what to do.anyone help me please?

I would confront that girl and tell her what the sister told you. You should be able to tell if she is lying. Just tell her straight up you may think I'm ugly and hate me but at least I know I am real and would never talk behind a face I just smiled to. Guarantee you she will feel like complete shit about it. This girl sounds like she needs to realize how much that crap actually hurts people. In the mean time you do you and don't worry with what fake people think. :)

[Buttercup]

I really feel for you but something that you will come to realise is that the world is full of assholes! Who knows why but there are plenty of them out there, people that make you feel crap, that hurt you and upset you. On the other hand the world also has lots of nice people in it and they are the ones that you want to surround yourself with. You need to accept that some people in life will like you and some won't and there is not a lot you can do about that. It's hard to hear that someone doesn't like you but try and brush it off, it's not worth your time and effort being upset over such petty things. It's rubbish when you are young, at school and surrounded by all this silliness but remember that as you get older it gets better and by then you will have more established friends who will stick with you through thick and thin.

[Chiliphil1]

The thing about friends is that they come and go, another thing about them is that they can be replaced, and the best thing about friends is that you don't need them anyway.

I have the same problem as you in a lot of cases, I hang on an event or something someone said to me, it will really play on my mind and I can't seem to get over it. When this happens it seems to be the dumbest most trivial stuff, things that won't matter 5 seconds after they happen and I cannot change anyway.

What you have to do, and believe me it's easier said than done, plus from your post I assume you are in school, which makes it worse. Stop caring what people think! I was probably the most unpopular kid around when I was younger, I was overweight, listened to music that no one else around me listened to, dressed my own way, and wasn't very talkative or social. At first it bothered me that I was not popular, and I tried to dress like the popular kids, listed to the music they did, etc.. That didn't work, and I realized that it wasn't me, and I was not happy being this way, so I was myself and that was that.

Now that I'm older and out of school, I really don't care what others think. I look back now almost with a regret that I ever tried to blend in instead of just being me, and so now I really don't worry about what's trendy or popular I simply do what I do and that's that.

I apologize as I know that was a bit off topic, but the point is that if someone is not, or doesn't want to be friends with you, and/or they don't like you the best thing you can do is to wipe then from your life, obviously they are not worthy of being there, nothing that makes you unhappy deserves a place in your life, so in cases like this I simply reccomend to move on, and in fact I would not even confront this girl but simply have nothing to do with her from now on, then she is the one left wondering why she isn't around you, no reason to put yourself in a position of having more to worry about.