nataliabella22
08-31-2012, 08:33 AM
Ever since I was a little girl I have been afraid/disgusted by body hair. I have to shave almost everything on my body and if I don't, I feel "gross" and not pretty. my anxiety and phobia is really bad when it comes to the opposite sex, however. I am absolutely terrified if I see a guy with a lot of body hair...especially if it is dark. when I am "hooking up", I feel turned off after seeing the bottom part of the guy (if the legs are hairy or private parts). I also CAN'T STAND feeling hair up against me if we are cuddling. I have avoided dating altogether and have been single all my life. This is a huge problem because I do want to fall in love and get married someday...it's just when I see an excess of hair, it ruins my relationship. therefore, I tend to "fall for" guys with lighter features--never dark Italians, Greeks, etc they actually gross me out. Sorry to offend anyone. I am Italian myself.
The thing is, I know what this stems from. as a child, 2 of my uncles would always grab me, tickle me, and not let me go. I would be terrified Everytime they would do this. I absolutely hated it. And I grew to be afraid of them. they are probably the hairiest guys I have ever seen. hair covering their entire body including their back. also, I went to Italy when I was 3 to visit family. It's ridiculous how much a 3 year old can remember.... But my uncle whom I just met at the time would always be around me....holding my hand, kissing me (like italians do), taking walks with me at the beach etc. (he wore a speedo). And I just remember feeling absolutely terrible at the time. I felt so uncomfortable and scared.
I'm assuming that my phobia/disgust of hair is because of my past experiences. I just wish I did not have this anxiety. I want to get over it but I don't know what to do. :( can anyone help?
The thing is, I know what this stems from. as a child, 2 of my uncles would always grab me, tickle me, and not let me go. I would be terrified Everytime they would do this. I absolutely hated it. And I grew to be afraid of them. they are probably the hairiest guys I have ever seen. hair covering their entire body including their back. also, I went to Italy when I was 3 to visit family. It's ridiculous how much a 3 year old can remember.... But my uncle whom I just met at the time would always be around me....holding my hand, kissing me (like italians do), taking walks with me at the beach etc. (he wore a speedo). And I just remember feeling absolutely terrible at the time. I felt so uncomfortable and scared.
I'm assuming that my phobia/disgust of hair is because of my past experiences. I just wish I did not have this anxiety. I want to get over it but I don't know what to do. :( can anyone help?