SunflowerKitten
07-06-2012, 02:12 PM
Hello everyone.
Happy Friday.
Happy to have found the forum.
I married in Dec 2001, and at the time my husband became ill and disabled in 2005 and was unable to work since.
I became his caregiver and only income provider for him and our three children.
I had to have an emergency hysterectomy in June 2008, he had brain surgery in Aug 2008, resulting from the surgery he had severe neurological and Memory Loss Issues, and several auto immune diseases surfaced. He was approved 100 percent Social Security Disability in July 2011.
I had breast cancer surgery in January of 2010.
I couldn't do the care giving anymore and asked for a separation in Nov 2011, proceeded with a divorce, and divorce was Final in Feb of 2012.
Now I'm a single Mom to three children, have to pay alimony to my disabled ex-husband, get no child support, and my body finally broke down and dealt with the stress I had to keep in check for the past 6 yrs of care giving.
Just now discovering and learning how to deal with symptoms of Anxiety (chest pain and trouble breathing), extreme stress, and PTSD from the care giving, and 10 + years of verbal, mental, and emotional abuse.
Adjusting to the divorce and just started seeing a therapist myself. Was prescribed xanax by my PCP to help me sleep and help on the days the chest pain comes on suddenly.
I am also trying to help my kid’s adjust to the entire dynamic of their father being sick their entire life, but now he no longer lives under the same roof.
The kids go to a pediatric therapist about every 2 wks, so their emotional and mental health and adjustment period is most important to me right now.
Thanks for reading.
Happy Friday.
Happy to have found the forum.
I married in Dec 2001, and at the time my husband became ill and disabled in 2005 and was unable to work since.
I became his caregiver and only income provider for him and our three children.
I had to have an emergency hysterectomy in June 2008, he had brain surgery in Aug 2008, resulting from the surgery he had severe neurological and Memory Loss Issues, and several auto immune diseases surfaced. He was approved 100 percent Social Security Disability in July 2011.
I had breast cancer surgery in January of 2010.
I couldn't do the care giving anymore and asked for a separation in Nov 2011, proceeded with a divorce, and divorce was Final in Feb of 2012.
Now I'm a single Mom to three children, have to pay alimony to my disabled ex-husband, get no child support, and my body finally broke down and dealt with the stress I had to keep in check for the past 6 yrs of care giving.
Just now discovering and learning how to deal with symptoms of Anxiety (chest pain and trouble breathing), extreme stress, and PTSD from the care giving, and 10 + years of verbal, mental, and emotional abuse.
Adjusting to the divorce and just started seeing a therapist myself. Was prescribed xanax by my PCP to help me sleep and help on the days the chest pain comes on suddenly.
I am also trying to help my kid’s adjust to the entire dynamic of their father being sick their entire life, but now he no longer lives under the same roof.
The kids go to a pediatric therapist about every 2 wks, so their emotional and mental health and adjustment period is most important to me right now.
Thanks for reading.