Jealous of others!?

[octopus]

Hey everyone on the Internet!
I don't think i am the only one. Do you get overly jealous of other people when you really shouldent be. Like for example if you liked a person but they like somebody else you would get overly jealous? Or when something good happens to someone else? I get overly anxious at little things that don't happen to me! Thanks for the help!

[ythdgz]

All the time! I get jealous/envious of people for a variety of reasons mainly because they are more successful than me personally and professionally. I get envious when people boast about being in relationships, going out with friends, etc. and I feel flawed and inferior as a result.

[Buttercup]

Being jealous is part of human nature and getting frustrated and upset when people have things you don't have and that you want is natural. If the jealousy becomes so intense that you can't function or you end up reacting to the jealousy by doing negative things etc like hurting them, trying to take away what they have then it's a problem. But wishing you had what others had or feeling a bit pissed off is nothing to worry about. I find jealousy can be helpful- for instance it can make you strive to better yourself and achieve more in life. By thinking that way then you can turn the negative feelings into working towards something positive.

[topeka999]

I am an overly jealous person. I developed it in a period of severe depression in my younger years. My boyfriend, who was the closest person to me, cheated on me and I felt like the "other woman" had everything I didn't. To go along with that, my mom lost her job (both of them), my dad's salary got cut, I had to live with my grandparents, I gained some weight, family members betrayed me, and my parents got a divorce.

Ever since then, I get extremely jealous of romantic and appearance "things". Just seeing my boyfriend wave to another girl has me thinking that she has something I don't. And if someone my height is skinnier, I start to dislike them involuntarily. I can't help it. How do you deal with it?

(Edit): My jealousy has gotten to the point of me thinking - but not actually doing - mean things to the people I encounter with these feelings. I feel like I need to monitor them to make sure they don't "surpass me". I hate the feelings of worthlessness and desire that come with jealousy.

[MainerMikeBrown]

Liking yourself and cherishing the things you do have is key to overcoming jealousy.

[GreenPlz]

Jealousy is a feeling everyone experiences. To help with those symptoms, focus on yourself, and if you are really working hard on yourself, there will more to be proud of.

[alankay]

I think we get envious....most of us to some degree. Alankay

[fefediva22]

Be proud of who u are. Accept yourself.

[Pantherschik]

I am guilty of this ... feeling jealous or envious of others .... I see everyone elses life better than my own , and sometimes the people whom I am jealous of I really shouldn't be at all ...

It's just something I can't shake , which really sucks .... :(

[IceBat]

ah...i get this way too. extremely envious/jealous of friends and acquaintances when they get a great job, get to go on a fancy vacation etc. i think a lot of it has to do with the way we see value in ourselves. for instance, i used to have a job that paid me very little and i would get really bent out of shape about it. perhaps because i was measuring my self-worth by how much i was getting paid. when i think of it in those terms, it's sad to think that anyone would measure their value in the dollar and cents they earn working a silly job. you have to find REAL things to value in yourself...like the fact that you struggle with anxiety disorders but you carry on with style!! haha...just sayin... :D