Too scared to attend class..please help

[archerdude]

I only have 2 classes left before I graduate yet these classes require regular class participation to be able to get a good grade. I forced myself to participate in class in my previous classes in college whenever I was called upon. But now I just don't feel like attending class anymore. I'm too scared to be called on.

I also dread group projects which are required for the class. I feel like I just have had enough of this.

I was asking for special classes since I am graduating, but they would not give me one. A special class would mean either one on one or online with the professor. It is just so disappointing.

I also don't like the feeling of have lower years as my classmates. As of now, I have cut those classes out of fear of humiliation. But now the problem is even worse because I may have missed a lot, and the professor may not be willing to accommodate me. I know it was wrong to cut, but I couldn't imagine the humiliation of being required to participate.

Please help me. If anything, I just need some encouragement.

[archerdude]

I wish people wouldn't think that social phobia is so easy to overcome. It's not as simple as just being shy. I am also very aware that I need to go to class to graduate yet, the fear of humiliation is really holding me back.

[alankay]

Archer, what meds if any are you on? I coped with SA via an ssri(fluoxetine 20mg/day)) and a beta blocker(propranolol, 20mg-40mg before speeches) for speeches/presentations and at first my doc gave me a benzo to help get started until I got desensitized a bit then reduced the benzo dose. I helped allot. PM me any time. Alankay.

[bullyMeNever]

Hello, I have some of the same symptoms you suffer from. Especially the fear of humiliation. I have overcome that by learning to humiliate the person who is trying to embarass me.

Don't be afraid to make fun of people if they are trying make you a joke. Mock their voice and impersonate them as a dumbass and it will wipe that smug right off their face.

You should also learn how to fight, the girls will jump all over you once you learn to Vin Diesil some punk ass for looking at you cross eyed.

[dancinglemon]

I'm a little troubled by your response there. Anxiety is terrible, yes, but you shouldn't overcome it at the expense of someone else. Doing that is very unhealthy. A lot of the time, anxiety is brought on by perceived threats that, more often than not, are totally non existent. Someone you think is 'humiliating you' could just be having a bad day, or just be very bad at talking to people. They might not be humiliating you at all, like yourself, they could be putting on a front for their own fears. To them, you'd be the terrible person who is humiliating them. Mocking people is a sure-fire way to making problems a lot worse. I understand that it might be a coping mechanism that you've developed but putting people down and hurting those who frighten you is one of the most common causes of bullying. I also wouldn't encourage knocking some 'punk ass for looking at you cross eyed' that won't get you women, that'll get you arrested. As a woman myself, I'd also say that trait in a man is absolutely unattractive and would hesitate to be anywhere near someone who was so prone to violence.

[alaine]

I definitely don't think that trying to be rude is the best option.... And as a woman trust me this is not attractive and in your case the anxiety centers around being called apon so who would you lash out at? The professor? For me I have a hard time remembering every one is not really that interested in what I'm doing or thinking as silly as that sounds I always think people will think I'm dumb or I walk weird or I look silly then I remember they probably don't Evan notice me lol remember that every one in that room will be nervous to be called apon and they probably won't make a big deal if you don't answer correctly or stumble on your words (for the record I don't walk weird or look silly just my irrational thoughts lol)