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Lovely_Mess
05-20-2012, 05:16 PM
Hello everyone,

Im 26 y.o. Married for almost 5 years and I have 2 amazing children. Ive had anxiety since I was 12-13 y.o. I was diagnosed with PTSD, GAD, and when I was 14 told I was borderline bi-polar (doesnt surprise me because not very often I am in a stable grey zone, im usually really happy and great or really low and a mess).

My children are my life. Im a SAHM, which I love and wouldnt want to do anything else ideally, but sometimes I think its because my social anxiety gets so bad that holding down a job is difficult for me.

My husband and I had some issues. We seperated but lived under the same roof, but are now working on our issues, and I can actually say I feel like this is the best we have ever been in our relationsip (and we've known each other for 13 years!).

He works hard, and a lot of hours, which leaves me alone with the kids a lot. I find things to keep me busy. We're now on a venture of buying a house, which has flared up my anxiety some as well.

When I was younger I had classic anxiety attacks. I tried meds, I hated how they made me feel. Around the age of 20 I had a tachycardic event due to not eating well and low potassium levels. Since that day, Ive been scared to death of meds. Its about impossible to get me to take any. I had a hard enough time lately getting into the routine of taking vitamins (and I had to resort to the gummy kind). I have severe phobias over food and having an anyphalctic reaction as well. After my episode 6 years ago, my anxiety kicked back into high gear, but it began manifesting itself into physical symptoms. While I was pregnant with my daughter over 4 years ago, it started with it feel like it was hard to breath randomly throughout the day. Id get weak and get headaches. I dealt with that until she was about a year, and then I did better. Over the past year however, they have manifested horribly. I still get the tight SOB feeling. But now I have heart palpitations, and have about passed out a few times because it felt like someone took all the breath out of me. Scared something was horribly wrong, ive had numerous tests. Echo, normal; EKG, normal; event monitor, normal; blood work, normal; pulmonary function test, normal... Ive finally now just given up, but during my most severe health anxiety, my immune system was shot. I got pneumonia twice during Nov. and Dec. was in and out of the hospital and ER visits.... Im still plagued with the thought I COULD have a clot in my leg. I try to brush them off, but its hard. Im doing better then I was a few months ago, and just trying to be thankful for my health, but Im still having moments were its hard to overcome and I go full panic mood.

No one in my family really understand. They try to be supportive, but its hard for them given they have no idea how it feels to live like this. Somedays I feel like its a cruel joke being played on me.

Anyways, thats me in a nutshell (literally!!!)

Lovely_Mess
05-21-2012, 07:41 AM
Howdy and welcome .

So what have you tried to date and what do you know about anxiety ??

What are the feelings you have that lead into anxiety and panic ??

cheers kev


When I was younger I was put on various medication. They either never worked after several months of use, or made me feel like a zombie, which I refuse to be like. Plus, given my pharmacophobia, taking pills at this point is out of the question. Ive tried counceling when I was younger, it didnt help either (tried several different ones over the years). Its to the point where I dont really feel anxious anymore, but my doctor believes my anxiety has "evolved" (as he puts it) and its manifesting into physical symptoms that are mimicing other diseases. He says this due to the fact that they run test after test and everything comes back normal. Given my ferars over medications, its difficult to even prescribe me one, let alone, something to help when I have a supposed "attack" wont work because Im not having a normal panic attack, id be taking the darn things 24/7 because they dont come and go what so ever.

I know a lot about anxiety acctually. For awhile before this started popping up again, I went to nursing school to be an RN, was a month or so shy of graduation, and had to leave because my anxiety came back out and I couldnt function properly like I needed to. For months I kept telling myself these physical symptoms were not anxiety because they dont feel like anxiety, they honestly feel like something is wrong with me physically, but given ive had a lot of tests done, I dont know what else to think. The scariest part is the episodes I have. Ive had two. One in Sept. and one in feb. Ive never had anything like it, but I was walking down the hall the first time, I had been having left shoulder blade pain for an hour or so, made it a few feet and it felt like my heart stopped and I couldnt breath. Some air would go in, but it wasnt going anywhere. I got disoriented and almost passed out and had to crawl to the phone. This lasted about a minute and then was gone and I was left feeling freaked out and scared. It happened again in feb. Ive had smaller minor episodes about three times in between that lasted about 3 seconds. I honestly dont feel its anxiety causing them, but my doctor is yet to find a physical cause. Not to mention my contant left leg pain in my calf thats been going on for 5 months.

orachahalion
07-22-2012, 11:32 PM
Hey there, you are not alone in here, thats one thing for sure.

I hope that you find the help and support to get well again.