Can't seem to cope.

[fallen]

'I've been severely depressed for over 20 years; diagnosed within the last couple of years. I am married, have two kids with ADHD, and know my marriage is about over. I'm on medication. My husband and I rarely talk and sleep in separate rooms in our home. All I do is work full time, take care of our kids, and take care of all household duties with no help. There is no affection and when I try to hug my husband, it seems to be a bother to him. This is only the tip of the iceberg and I could go on and on...but I feel like there's no point...I feel like no one cares...like I'm worthless and not appreciated at all. Someone please talk to me...I have no one and am very alone. I can't cope any longer.

[alankay]

Do you best to hang in there. It might be that he also is depressed. It might also be that you need someone who can understand the way you feel. I have found it to be true that it's darkest before the light so hang in there.
What meds ahve you tried? PM me any time. Alankay.

[The5thElement]

Hi fallen

I too have my days where I don't feel appreciated. I have horrible panic attacks and come to this site and read through the threads. In some weird way it helps that I am not alone. Maybe try that? Do you have other family members or friends you can talk to? If not, talk to us x

[Dave G]

Hello Fallen,

You remind me a lot of my mother. She is 40 with 2 children to take care of, ages 5 and 7 - not counting myself, since I'm out of the house. Her husband, my stepdad, had affairs throughout her whole marriage that she just found out about a year ago.. Even while my mom was pregnant, he was out on "business" in different cities paying prostitutes thousands of dollars - while my mom stayed at home and struggled and clipped coupons to save money. Sick right? Then he had the nerve to come home and look us right in the eyes. I wanted to kill him.

My mom left all of her friends and family to start a new life with him in a different state. Now, she is stuck. A 40 year old stay at home mom - hasn't worked in over 7 years. Alone and away from everyone. She wants to divorce, but doesn't want to not get full custody - plus she is concerned how she will support herself and my sisters if she can't find adequate work in her old field. She doesn't think child support would cut it.

What I'm getting at here is that my mom is going through the hardest time of her life - and she calls me everyday and we talk for hours sometimes. You are not alone in your hardships and time of loneliness. My mom tried getting on anti-depressants, that made her feel like a zombie, she said. What she's found to work the best with the coping is getting back in touch with people from her "old life" that she moved away from for this pig of a man. She talks to friends for hours on the phone, and visits them more frequently.

She told me she talks less about the "situation" with her friends, because she felt it pushing them away. A friend can only give so much advice or offer so much comfort until it reaches a limit where the victim seems like a nag and a downer. So I guess one solution is to simply talk about your feelings - with friends, if possible, or with us on here. I think we've all found that just getting things off of our chest and out in the open is a huge relief. Please feel free to message me anytime, as i have been a great help to my mom and can totally relate to your situation.

Sincerely hope things get better for you,
Dave

[Aimee Singer]

Fallen, I am so sorry that you are feeling this way. In no way am I trying to undermine your feelings, because I have been in that exact same place mentally in my mind. This morning I had a panic attack, but I am starting to calm down. I just hope you know that this WILL pass. You don't only need to tell yourself this, you need to KNOW it. I know how silly it sounds, and to be honest I wish I could take my own advice sometimes. Please don't give up, because it only makes it that much harder to drag yourself out of that hole we're all stuck in.

Please, feel free to message me ANYTIME.